Hi, everyone, it is early days yet. However, I feel like I have unblocked a blocked connection with my only child. Bearing in mind, there is a 37 year difference in age, I feel that I have been able to reach him, at last. He had a disabled father for the whole of his (father's) life. We didn't know but Laurie was diagnosed with Myotonic Dystrophy in November 1986 and Nick was born in January 1987. Nick seemed to identify with his father and, indeed, became his father's carer, because of funding difficulties for adult carers.
That aside, I wrote recently, on the board about my son and the problems I was having with him - ie trying to get him to start behaving like an adult instead of a irresponsible teenager. Several of you, gave me very sound advice, and I did take all comments on board and I spent a lot of time thinking about the best approach. I decide to write a letter telling him how much I loved him and I was concerned that his behaviour would get him into serious trouble.
Well, he has started to toe the line and talk to me. It wasn't that he ignored me but he did just say Hi Mum. how are you going?. But it was nothing meaningful. Today the cops turned up to serve with a subpoena for drink driving on a suspended licence. He accepted service of the document. The cynical me says maybe he is talking to you because you have the resources to plead a decent case - if you can call it that (I work with barristers and I have already organised solicitor pro-bono), but the intuitive me says there is a shift of respect.
Anyway, time will tell but I just thought I would fill you in with what is happening with regards to my son, and the terrible situation, I found myself in earlier.
Once again, thanks for all the comments.
Kim in Oz
