Good Morning Pheonix and everyone:
I'm so glad to hear you say, Pheonix, that "everyone deserves respect".
I was getting a bit worried about that but now I feel so relieved to find that we have the same basic idea about respect being due to all people. I'm hoping you and I are not the only ones who believe this. I doubt very much that we are the only ones.
I totally agree with your viewpoint on self-respect but the point I am trying to make is about respect for other people. The lack of it that people who behave badly seem to be displaying. The need to make them aware of that and the need to do that by at least, showing them a bit of respect.
I am having a hard time with what you have said: "not everyone is capable of giving or having it (re respect) for others".
In other words, some people can't have respect for others.
They can't.
They have a problem with giving or having respect for others that can't be solved.
Cannot be solved.
They are incapable of changing their attitude or behaviour in order to give or have respect for others.
I find that idea incorrect, in my view. I understand and believe that we are all the only ones who can control our attitude, our behaviour, our thinking. No one else can do that for us. No one can force a certain attitude in us or force change in our behaviour or thinking.
In the long run, if we decide to have a certain attitude, to think a certain thing or way, to behave in a certain way, we will always find ways to do what we decide.
In the same sence, if we decide to change our attitude, to think differently in order to bring about a new attitude, if we decide to behave differently, we will do exactly that.
I don't think it's a question of being capable of having respect.
I think it's a matter of deciding to.
Of having a desire to.
Of making a committment to change.
Anyhow, yes. You did stand up for me and I thankyou Pheonix. This was getting pretty darn hostile and for no real good reason except that tempers do flare, especially in consideration of the deplorability of this terrible problem (this horrid behaviour that my h and so many others are displaying or haved displayed or are yet to display).
I must get off here now. I have been away from my pc over the weekend and have not had time this a.m. to so much as look at anything else, other than your comment above this of mine. I hope to hear this discussion continuing because it is so very important that it does continue.
If we just keep doing what we're doing and we don't try to do something different, I just have this awful feeling that things aren't going to get any better because from what I have seen, things are indeed getting much worse (whether we consider stats or whatnot). The fact is, this behaviour continues.
I would like to see it stopped before it begins.
I really would.
I would like to see many less people trying to heal from the results of this behaviour.
Hope you all have a wonderful day with a great bit of healing.
Really big, huge, large, giant hug. No kidding about that at all.
