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Gaining Strength

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #15 on: February 25, 2008, 11:25:01 AM »
Actually, I didn't object.  I just came here and posted about my feelings.  I think objecting or raising the issue would only work against me.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #16 on: February 25, 2008, 11:28:35 AM »
yes youre probably right

(I was talking from my bull-in-the-chinashop space!!!)

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #17 on: February 25, 2008, 03:41:07 PM »
Gaining Strength,

Regarding your post #17 comment, "Actually, I didn't object.  I just came here and posted about my feelings.  I think objecting or raising the issue would only work against me."

I can definitely relate to your feelings here. BUT I also relate to your alienation of being a single mother. That woman who answered for the group was being insensitive and ignorant of your situation and others like you. In order to avoid this in the future, I would point out the situation to her so that she can alter her vision for others who come after you. (there will be many!)

Raising awareness for an important issue is sometimes critical to change in society.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #18 on: February 25, 2008, 04:23:29 PM »
Oh, Gaining Strength...  :)  I'm so glad you went and did the mama bear thing!!   Your little cub is blessed indeed  :)

You walked through the offense and you did good, GS... really.

Love,
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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #19 on: February 25, 2008, 05:12:38 PM »
Daily Mail - many times I definitely opt for the bull inthe china shop approach though as of late it has been less and less.

DandyLife - you make a really good point.  I may do that if I can do it with kindness and humor and without rancor.

CH - thanks for the support. It is always welcomed and always healing.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #20 on: February 25, 2008, 10:55:36 PM »
How about an email to the little group that simply says,

I was hurt by this email becausevwhen the message said "none of our mothers are going" I felt invisible. 
"Hello, yes ONE of our mothers is going because there is no father."
 

I think you'd be doing them a favor.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #21 on: February 25, 2008, 11:20:57 PM »
Yes Hops I think you have a point.  I'm going to think about the best approach for me.  Thank you for your wise council, it jives nicely with DandyLife's comment.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #22 on: February 26, 2008, 07:53:40 AM »
GS,
Sorry I am just getting to this post now.
You did the right thing in going.
I don't blame yo one bit for being peeved. They are an annoying, controlling group of women. I would do what you must to be cordial for your son's sake and avoid any interaction with them. Having lived in a miltary community for so many years, I have found many groups like this. I have decided that I will never like them or want to be like them. So I do the minimum I need with them to survive. I really don't take their behavior as a slight anymore - they are weak and silly women.
Lots of love to you and your son, GS.
Love, Beth
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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #23 on: February 26, 2008, 08:10:00 AM »
Thanks Beth!!

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #24 on: February 26, 2008, 08:58:54 AM »
Dear GS,
  I think that Hops had a great idea . Also, Beth expressed important thoughts, for all of us in our human interactions. GS, I think that your son is very fortunate to have you for a mother!           Love   Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #25 on: February 26, 2008, 02:10:06 PM »
Thank you Ami.

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Re: Feeling slighted
« Reply #26 on: February 27, 2008, 12:30:02 AM »
LOL bean - That's the attitude I'm gunning for.  I do plan to go on the campout.  I'll just wear pants and let my beard grow.