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Cj:
Hi, sorry MM, that was to Bunny. :).
Thanks for your reply, good words. :)
Your reply was interesting to BlueTopaz. Wow, and the extent to which those feelings stretched, as you recalled. That is alarming in a way. But yes, I can see a similarity with a sort of paranoia in myself (well thats what i call it, but this has put a totally different (deeper) angle on it). The way peoples actions/gestures, and words can have a life all of their own, albeit one which is distorted. In how Its percieved. So yes, what you say makes sense. Thank you.:)
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: Cj ---Now I feel dumb. :S. I'm not sure what your getting at.
Are you suggesting I'm not expressing myself and my feelings very properly, and inviting feedback? Not trying to connect?
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What I tried to say, probably clumsily, was that you may be creating a negative feedback loop without intending to. If you write, "I don't know what I mean," "I feel stupid," "Now I feel even worse," or things to that effect, it creates a feeling of helplessness in the reader. This gives you the feedback from them, that there's not much anyone can do. This reinforces your feeling of despondency. If you change the way you write, the feedback loop will also change. I am not saying you don't express yourself properly. I'm saying you may be creating a feedback loop that sustains a bad feeling in you. And this can be changed.
bunny
Cj:
I'm with you now :).
--- Quote from: Anonymous ---
--- Quote from: Cj ---Now I feel dumb. :S. I'm not sure what your getting at.
Are you suggesting I'm not expressing myself and my feelings very properly, and inviting feedback? Not trying to connect?
--- End quote ---
What I tried to say, probably clumsily, was that you may be creating a negative feedback loop without intending to. If you write, "I don't know what I mean," "I feel stupid," "Now I feel even worse," or things to that effect, it creates a feeling of helplessness in the reader. This gives you the feedback from them, that there's not much anyone can do. This reinforces your feeling of despondency. If you change the way you write, the feedback loop will also change. I am not saying you don't express yourself properly. I'm saying you may be creating a feedback loop that sustains a bad feeling in you. And this can be changed.
bunny
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