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Cj:
Thanks for the replies. Yes, I know what your getting at.  When you say, you didn't see much in my earlier threads, ha, it makes me think those same (I'm making a big deal out of nothing, punchline 'My feelings don't matter, and are never as bad as anyone elses') feelings again haha. Are we beginning to see a pattern here? :)

The 'sense of self' (lack) registers big time though.

Anonymous:
Cj,

If people aren't getting what you write, it doesn't mean you're a nothing person and everyone dislikes you. This feeling can be helped more quickly than you think by experimenting in writing a different way. You can delete any sentence that says, "I don't know what I'm trying to say," or "I'm confused," etc. Change your writing style, and your life might change. I'm serious! If you say to yourself: "But I am confused, and I want people to know how I feel!" that is a legitimate choice. But there is a consequence to it. If you delete sentences like that, you might find that things change within you.  Acting "as-if" can really make a difference, as humans are extremely influenced by suggestion.

bunny

Cj:
Now I feel dumb. :S. I'm not sure what your getting at.

Are you suggesting I'm not expressing myself and my feelings very properly, and inviting feedback? Not trying to connect?

BlueTopaz:
Hi CJ,

When we are hypersensitive to certain things, we often miscontrue meanings of others words, in a way that fits with our feared self beliefs.

I was doing this for years, and at one time in my 20's (am in 30's now), I was unable to even watch tv. shows where a character was saying things to another like "your stupid" "your a nobody", etc., because I was so hypersensitive to these things in my own mind, that I felt they were talking directly to me!   Even just hearing it like that on tv. was further eroding my self esteem, and I had to turn the channel.    

I could tell yet more things that I find so sad & amazing now, about ways I would also feel ashamed of myself, of just my "being" and how I would think and view others comments and behaviors toward me because of that.  
 
At the epitomy of hypersensitivity, we just naturally look at what others say through the filter of our insecurities.

The more you get to understanding what is behind the shame you feel (which gladly, you mention you are in the process of doing) and how this is affecting your perceptions, the more you will be free of the debilitating false filters.

You will gain more self confidence and have more peace of mind.

Take care.

mighty mouse:
CJ,

When you say, you didn't see much in my earlier threads

I simply meant I could only FIND two posts. Nothing to do with content.

MM

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