My answers . . . . Just so everyone knows how little I share with my mother. I have not told her that I'm in a new relationship, bought a house, my son has had some issues with school, the treatment plan for my son's ADHD, problems with my neighbors, or anything else of substance.
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_x__1. When you discuss your life issues with your mother, does she or did she divert the discussion to talk about herself?
_x__2. When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she or did she try to top the feeling with her own?
_x__3. Does or did your mother act jealous of you?
_x__4. Does or did your mother lack empathy for your feelings?
_x__5. Does or did your mother only support those things you do that reflect on her as a "good mother"?
_x__6. Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your mother?
_x__7. Have you consistently questioned whether or not your mother likes you or loves you?
___8. Does or did your mother only do things for you when others can see?
_x__9. When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce), does or did your mother react with how it will affect her rather than how you feel?
_x__10. Is or was your mother overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, co-workers)?
_x__11. Does or did your mother deny her own feelings?
_x__12. Does or did your mother blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for her own feelings or actions?
_x__13. Is or was your mother hurt easily and then carries a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?
_x__14. Did or do you feel you were a slave to your mother?
_x__15. Did or do you feel you were responsible for your mother's ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)?
___16. Did you have to take care of your mother's physical needs as a child?
_x__17. Did or do you feel unaccepted by your mother?
_x__18. Did or do you feel your mother was critical of you?
_x__19. Did or do you feel helpless in the presence of your mother?
_x__20. Were or are you shamed often by your mother?
___21. Did or do you feel your mother knows the real you?
_x_22. Did or does your mother act like the world should revolve around her?
_x__23. Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your mother?
_x__24. Did or does your mother appear phony to you?
_x__25. Did or does your mother want to control your choices?
_x__26. Did or does your mother swing from egotistical to depressed mood?
_x_27. Did or do you feel you had to take care of your mother's emotional needs as a child?\
_x__28. Did or do you feel manipulated in the presence of your mother?
_x__29. Did or do you feel valued, by mother, for what you do rather than who you are?
_x_30. Was or is your mother controlling, acting like a victim or martyr?
_x_31. Does or did your mother make you act different from how you really feel?
_x__32. Does your mother compete with you?
_x__33. Does or did your mother always have to have things her way?
