Hi Dandy,
I didn't want to detract from the original posting and the direction it was taking, but this topic hit home for me.
I have no idea if I impacted anyone in a positive or negatice way as a kid. But I would guess that I impacted people in a negative way because I don't think I was a very nice person.
I also have no idea what is normal for a teenager and what is awful. I hear people talking and laughing about getting drunk, having boyfriends, sex, cheating, whatever. And they don't seem traumatised by it. I feel pain for any bad thing I did, from not changing the toilet paper roll to more serious offenses. I feel like my childhood was one huge time of me being "bad." So, how do you know what is normal tween/teen behavior???????
Love, Beth