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Voicelessness & New Job Worries :-(
Anonymous:
Hi Blue Topaz,
Just checking in after returning from a short trip. Glad my post was useful. :) Thanks for the kind words.
Hey ya Phoenix,
I can relate to where you are now. I found I had the most confidence when I cared the least about the job! Anyway, I would do what someone above (BT?) suggested: just clear the air about the missing money.
Also, realize that the girl going out on leave is clearly threatened by the possibility that you may replace her PERMANENTLY vs. temporarily. She does not trust the situation which means she doesn't trust the placeholder (you).
Although you are helping out the business and the boss, a youngun wouldn't even begin to think that through. Perhaps she might back off if you said (if this is true), "hey, this is strictly temporary for me. I know the boss and you are really close (if true), and she is really looking forward to you returning when you are able. I hope your pregnancy goes really well. Please don't worry about all this stuff while you are out." Maybe that will defuse this situation.
BTW, speaking of Ns at work, one of the best lines I heard was from a new dept head who was confronted with the N underling who was testing his tolerance for drama. He took one look at her (one look!) and said "take it somewhere else." I wish more managers were that focused!
Take care everybody, Seeker
phoenix:
bye
Dawning:
Blue Topaz,
Best of luck tomorrow on your first day. The first day is always a stresser for everyone. As an HSP, even more so. Pranayana breathing helps me when I get wound up. 5 counts on the inhale....5 counts on the exhale. And, with all the great advice given on this thread, you are not going in vulnerable.
Anonymous:
Blue Topaz,
Good luck on Monday. Maybe it will actually be okay! I hope so.
bunny
BlueTopaz:
Thanks so much for the well wishes. I really appreciated reading them before going.
I'll write a bit about the experience on the wknd. or something. I'm emotionally exhausted, and it's only been the first day!
Take care...
BT
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