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Ariel

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The rejected Narcissist
« on: August 04, 2004, 12:37:00 AM »
Hi everyone,

Here I'm back again. Now I have a question:  How is a narcissist likely to react if rejected by a woman when he insists on having sex with her on the second date? Speaking from my fresh experience, he will go into a queer tantrum - an emotionless sulky robot, staring into space. And he won't talk to you unless spoken to.

Take care.

Ariel

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The rejected Narcissist
« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2004, 12:54:07 AM »
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an emotionless sulky robot, staring into space. And he won't talk to you unless spoken to.


This is what my Nmother did when i dared to disagree with her or do anything that didn't give her supply.  

It could be that the person you refer to is an N.  Or, perhaps, he feels rejected and doesn't want to be rejected again and that's why he won't talk unless spoken to.  If you go up and speak to him and he acts as if he feels a sense of entitlement at receiving your attention or is haughty and grandiose (rather than, say, a humble meeting of the minds) then I would weigh heavily in favour of the rejected N.
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Lizbeth

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Re: The rejected Narcissist
« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2004, 11:03:32 AM »
Hi Ariel, I'm assuming this is someone you've started dating and are trying to figure out?  If a man insists on having sex with you on the second date and then starts acting in the way you describe, I would say if he isn't an N, he is still a controllling jerk that you should run the hell away from as fast as you can (if you haven't already).  Major, major red flags there.

Hope this helps.

Lizbeth

Quote from: Ariel
Hi everyone,

Here I'm back again. Now I have a question:  How is a narcissist likely to react if rejected by a woman when he insists on having sex with her on the second date? Speaking from my fresh experience, he will go into a queer tantrum - an emotionless sulky robot, staring into space. And he won't talk to you unless spoken to.

Take care.

Ariel

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The rejected Narcissist
« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2004, 12:07:08 PM »
There won't be a third date, will there?

bunny

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The rejected Narcissist
« Reply #4 on: August 04, 2004, 12:45:05 PM »
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There won't be a third date, will there?

bunny


That's what I was trying to say to her, thanks for saying it, bunny.

Lizbeth (forgot to log back in)

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The rejected Narcissist
« Reply #5 on: August 04, 2004, 03:27:47 PM »
I think it depends. There is no 'typical narcissist' response; that's a myth of Freudian psychology that people will correspond to behaviours or stages.

A cerebral narcissist seems to have received their 'narcissistic injury' at such a point in psycho-sexual development that they will persist over and over to get attention, be important etc...but automatically expect to be repelled and despised sexually.

One of my close friends who is married to a psychiatrist-diagnosed narcissist is actually quite a horrible bitch after three years of first being her friend and confidante, then seeing her in action: she cares about nothing except the money and attention provided by her husband.
 
She spent two years trying to convince me how abusive he is, but I spent several years in the uk working with victims of abuse, and the picture didn't fit.

Compensatory narcissism I think it's called.

Personally for my own experience ( and dare I say karma ) we should treat everyone with respect, withdraw from abusive relationships if it seems appropriate, but frankly if we stay in them over time it's our own responsibility.

ie. don't date sick people
( once you realise they are sick )  unless you intend to tend to sick people...