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Writing my mother
MadameButterfly:
Michelle,
Good for you for speaking your truth! I know how it is to really want a mom in your life, a real one! But the truth is it's something that you can give to yourself. First, you can be a mom to yourself by taking care of YOU. By making sure that you nurture your self and love yourself. Too, you can surround yourself with other moms. If you haven't read "The Secret Life of Bees" I highly recommend it. It will change your life, it did
mine. Hang in there and stay strong and do what YOU feel is right for you and for your family. You have my support! :)
Michelle:
Thanks everyone for your replies. I appreciate your support and encouragement and am thinking of you all in your situations also.
Welcome to the board "findingme". :) Glad your here!
Michelle
Anonymous:
Thanks for posting your reply to your mother. It helped me see how easily I miss my N's stomping on my boundaries (which apparently still arern't very strong. I missed a lot of the trouncing in here until I read your reply.
Way to go!
Max
Michelle:
Thanks Max. Hope to see you around more on the board.
:)
Michelle
Michelle:
Finally got a response.
--- Quote ---This e- mail doesnt even deserve a response.... if you want to talk to me about anything you know my telephone number. Mama
--- End quote ---
Just as well. I know the facts, but it's still disappointing and sad. :cry:
My response.
--- Quote ---Your lack of response shows me that you can't and/or won't make a defense for your present and past actions, which proves that you do not care about my feelings or pain. It also shows me that you do not truly care enough about me to leave your comfort level and learn some simple communication skills. After several months of you begging me to speak with you I finally took the time to write you and tried to explain why your behavior towards me is unacceptable. Your response is what I expected. It exemplifies the love that you have for yourself - even over your own child.
"This e- mail doesnt even deserve a response..." proves to me that you are unwilling to communicate with me in a healthy way. You are in total denial and only wish to hear the things you want to hear. I refuse to play those mind games anymore.
I will not have any type of communication with you until you take the time to teach yourself how to communicate in a healthy way - with respect, compassion, and understanding. I am learning to accept the sad facts that this day may never come. Until you can take a look at yourself and show true signs of healthy communication, you will not be a part of my life.
Michelle
--- End quote ---
Guess I'm officially an orphan.
Michelle
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