Dear James,
I think that this is a stage, for you. I went through this for my first year,on the board. I was a walking ball of pain. Many people did not like me b/c I was so raw and vulnerable. In my real life, I was not as raw and vulnerable b/c people didn't really understand N's and so I gave up and was more superficial.
On the board, I moaned and moaned b/c I needed to. Some people understood and helped, Gradually, I started to see my problems and started to feel a little better. I stayed when I wanted to leave ,and other people wanted me to leave, too(lol) This board understands N's and that is unique.Even most therapists do not understand how N's function in life(IME)
My NM went to therapy her whole life and no one told her she was an N until *I* did ,by learning about it ,on the board.
So, the board is unique in that you don't have to explain yourself about N's and N damage.
I think there is no way around being a walking ball of pain ,for a period of time. Maybe, I am wrong,but I think that you have to go through it.
As I found my core , I started to get some peace and hope.
God has always brought me people,on the board, and in life, to help. It has never failed.
If 60 % of the people don't understand, 40% will. The 40% will be life giving .
I have hope, now. I feel a sense that I can be an authentic person.
I think, James, that there is no way to get around the pain of "exposing" your vulnerabilites, until you see that you are human, not "bad", as I am seeing,now.
The road was not easy, but staying "sick" was harder(lol)
Staying sick is so,so much worse. It is hopeless.
Now,I do have hope for my life.
You will, too. Love Ami
((((((((((James)))))))))))