Control

[Ami]

I got a new book endorsed by Alice Miller. It talks about how to reclaim your life by going to the deepest levels and healing those frozen emotions.
 I was talking to James, about "control".
 I never realized that I EVEN controlled(lol)
 It is so funny to me that I never even "knew" what control really was, in a practical ,functional way, how it "looked"
 I see that my stomach aches are a way to control the outside so I can be "good"( taking care of other people's emotions) . If I am "good", I will be "safe".
 Today, I am going to study the Alice Miller website.
 My body and soul are so tired of replaying my relationship with my M,over and over.
 I think of Kelly, trying to get away from her M, physically.
 I AM away, physically, but it does not even matter that much, b/c she is in my very cells.         Ami

[gratitude28]

I learned a lot about control through AA.
Whenever you expect things to turn out a certain way, you are trying to control. When you expect people to do or say a certain thing, that is an attempt to have control.
This is a good topic, Ami.
Love, Beth

[Leah]

Such a good point, Beth

I feel, personally, that one can only ever have "ownership" of oneself.

Knowing this, and accepting this, truly brings inner peace.

Of course, one can "hope" that things may turn out a certain way, however, without any feelings of entitlement (control).

Love, Leah

[Gabben]

I learned a lot about control through AA.

Me too.

What I learned is that we can only speak our truth and let the rest be in God's hands. The opposite of control is faith for control is fear.

How we speak out truth is another matter. When I practice coming from a place of owning my voice, my feelings and my actions, with no thoughts of how that person, people or situation will turn out, then I have nothing to fear.

More fear will arise in us the more we try to control.

Good topic.

Lise