NO REMORSE, NONE EVER. SHE ALWAYS HAS AN EXCUSE WHY SHE DESERVES IT, WITH A TEAR AND LEAVES WITH A SMILE.
IT IS A GAME.
Last time she talked she got free pictures after complaining.
Ate a piece of cake, said she found something in it and returned it for her MONEY. She does this all the time, it's all LIES.
Sociopaths take pure pleasure in deceiving people, really....it is part of their game in life. They are not in the game of life to love because they can't love, they have no heart so their game is to play games and to win.
Dear ((((((Seasons)))))),
Goodness, that's my mother and my sister, as I have shared previously, who are very much "cloned" as they are remarkably so alike right down to the way they walk, plus the "smirk" and "laugh"
I am reading a straightforward and enlightening book that arrived today .... (I have read The Sociopath Next Door by Marth Stout PhD a couple of years ago)
Understanding the Hidden Patterns that Motivate Abusers : Narcissists, Borderlines, and Sociopaths.
"Sociopaths do not have any conscience at all, and they absolutely enjoy deception -- with repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure."
I have avoided applying this particular disorder to my mother and my sister, however, today big "lightbulbs" simply refuse to dim regarding the startling truth, which is evident.
DSM for Sociopath:
Glibness and Superficial Charm
Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."
Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.
Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
Incapacity for Love
Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.
Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.
Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.
Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.
Other Related Qualities:
Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
Authoritarian
Secretive
Paranoid
Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired
Conventional appearance
Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
Incapable of real human attachment to another
Unable to feel remorse or guilt
Extreme narcissism and grandiose
It's the ... "lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, or stolen from another"
that never ceases to amaze me, frequently, upon my life experiential recollections -- of mother, and sister
and
"Sociopaths do not have any conscience at all, and they absolutely enjoy deception -- with repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure."
I sincerely understand how it feels to experience such disordered behavior, time and time again. Until, the time comes, the day dawns, when ones aching heart cries out "No" more.
Love to you (((( Seasons ))))
Leah x
"Normal" people dread hurting someone else, especially someone close, and may exert great effort to avoid such hurt or to make it right once it has happened. Moreover, if a "normal" person does hurt someone else, they will feel remorse afterward.
"Sociopaths," on the other hand, have no such fears. It simply does not matter to "sociopaths" what happens to other people, including their family members and intimate partners, nor does it matter who or what causes the harm. Their brains simply lack the connections that would lead to these thoughts and feelings. A "sociopath" might appear to care about others, or fear hurting others, BUT the fear is entirely self-centered (to make their own lives easier). A "sociopath" is not at all bothered by the hurt felt by someone else.
