I know...it is just that I have felt ignored and invalidated, my reality has been invalidated.
I am hurting...and it is not the pity act or the victim dance.
It is the real stabbing pain my chest of what it is like to come on this board to receive so much shame and invalidation.
When other shame you, covertly by ignoring you and talking around you, it creates anger -- it makes me wonder...who is really doing the relational aggression?
My chest hurts with a burning pain.
People who have not been victimized do not understand.
They assume that victims are the ones crying, or weeping, when in fact victims are angry.
There are different types of anger.
I think that people love to shame others here for their mistakes and point fingers because they were all so abused as children, they hate themselves and don't even know it and so shaming others who publically get angry is a way of making themselves feel superior.
Then they go off on the psychobabble of triggers etc...acting super calm and healed, when all they are doing is wearing the mask of sanity for the sake of defense.
My defense are stripped raw...perhaps, that is why I am so raw and real.
Lise
