Hi Pinkdragon,
I don't mean to sound pessimistic whatsoever. But i think you should prepare yourself for a big change in your marital relationship because now that you KNOW, you are forever CHANGED. You have grown!! So, don't be hard on yourself if you find that your relationship with your husband will also change. It will be a big test of your relationship.
Hopefully, he will be patient and work things out, and prove his unconditional love. On the other hand, its a very tall order and maybe too high of an expectation, so be prepared for resistance too. And stay the course.
But in the end, you will be stronger, and better. Its very hard to go through all these growing pains, but its also the best thing for you toward achieving authenticity in your life.
Don't forget that your new friends here are cheering you on.
ch