Illusion of Magical Power (Magical Thinking), Fantasy, Reality

[dandylife]

Carolyn,

I will try to think of all the schemas. It's been a while since I read that book!

Abandonment

Emotional Deprivation

Dependence

Subjugation

Mistrust & Abuse

Unlovability/Feel Defective

Social Exclusion (Don't Belong)

Vulnerability (Lose Control)

Failure (Deficiency/Inferior)

Perfectionism/Unrelenting Standards

Entitlement (rules don't apply to me)

The other thing I remember about the book is that there are generally 3 ways to respond

1)   Surrender - Nothing changes. The engram, the pattern continues.
2)   Escape - Avoid thinking or communicating about the schema at all. “What’s the use?”
3)   Counterattack - You do or act the opposite of our schema and take on that persona.


As far as the magical thinking goes, I think some of these (like entitlement) would apply? These subjects all seem to meld.

Dandylife

[Certain Hope]

Dear Dandy,

Thank you so much! I see... the schemas are the basic troubled areas... or zones... which may (or may not) have arisen out of childhood experiences?
 I don't recall ever hearing or reading of this before.

Really, I can see how all this could bear examination in anyone;s life... not just bpd. Very interesting stuff, indeed.
Found one link that looks like it'll lead to some other info   http://bpd.about.com/od/treatmentoptions/p/SchemaTx.htm
and I'll check that out soon.

Thanks again....

with love,
Carolyn