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Moonflower

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« Reply #15 on: August 30, 2004, 12:25:52 AM »
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« Reply #16 on: August 30, 2004, 01:04:43 AM »
Ellen

No words can adequately express the grief you must feel.  My heart goes out to you at this tim and my prayers include you and your family.

Max

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« Reply #17 on: August 30, 2004, 12:48:36 PM »
Ellen,

I'm very sorry for your loss.  My thoughts are with you.

Best wishes,

Richard

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« Reply #18 on: September 01, 2004, 04:45:05 PM »
Ellen, so sorry to hear about your loss, I hope the other baby is still ok.  This is so very sad, I feel so badly for you.  I lost a baby once too.

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« Reply #19 on: September 03, 2004, 01:33:16 PM »
Hi Ellen, I hope you are okay. I really hope you are looking after yourself. Please don't forget to look after you. I'm sorry for your baby. P

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« Reply #20 on: September 04, 2004, 07:04:29 PM »
Hi Ellen,

I am sorry for your loss as well. I can identify with you as I had infertility problems also - 6 miscarriages in all. After my first miscarriage, my mother whispered in my ear "you'll never have any kids because you're too selfish". This from a woman who had 8 kids - I often wondered like you - why was she allowed any?

Anyway, the "reason" she made that comment was because I was joking around with a few of my siblings at an alumni banquet and we were saying how we didn't like the pickle loaf sandwiches she used to buy for our lunches for school. Nice, huh?

Even though I don't remember my Mom being a good mother, she construes any kind of comment as an insult. I remember just saying one time that I was having dental problems that were quite serious at the time. She didn't like me saying that and stated that she always took us to the dentist and made sure we were taken care of....which she did. But I was in my early twenties and for whatever reason I had dental problems which obviously ticked her off. It was like I was accusing her of something when I was just stating a fact. What a piece of work!!!!

Anyway, I got to the age of 40 and decided to quit trying to have kids. But I hope you do succeed in carrying the baby left to term. It doesn't help with the feeling of loss of the others though I know.

Hang in there, Ellen. We're rooting for you!

MM

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« Reply #21 on: September 04, 2004, 07:10:27 PM »
Dear Ellen,
In the midst of the most horrible time of my life two years ago, I couldn't believe how much grief I could put up with.  Like you, I couldn't understand why..Why?
The posts before mine express so well the fellowship and camaraderie available here.  Please know that i'm thinking of you right now and praying that life's hurts will shortly be replaced by life's blessings.
I recently was reunited with my birth mother who had a horrible time after she was forced to abandon me.  Throughout all that ( 41 years!!), she never once forgot about me and what I meant to her.  The silver lining in my cloud is knowing that today.
All the best to you and your husband,
take care,
Nic :)
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First it is ridiculed, second, it is violently opposed,third,it is accepted as being self evident
-Arthur Schopenhauer

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« Reply #22 on: September 06, 2004, 10:21:37 PM »
Dear Ellen,
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there were words to ease your pain.  Please know that you and your husband are in my prayers.
 
Much love,

Dinny