Yes! Who is Amber? I don't see the name on the Member's List.
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As far as losses are concerned, but don’t go by me, I have had many.
I lost my family without even knowing it, because I was born overly sensitive.
I lost a baby brother to death, when I was 7.
I lost my only love , Joe, because I didn’t choose well. He was an alcoholic and physical abuser, who loved me and fathered my daughter, but I was not wise enough to see that we, in the end would not work. He completed suicide at age 47, when I was 40 and our daughter was 15.
I lost my daughter at her age 18 when she met a Narcissist who divided and conquered, without my knowledge of the aberrant behaviour of an N. So at the same time, I lost my grandchildren, 3 altogether.
I lost friends because I was not like them… being that I was to keep secret the abuse that was happening at home and did not feel worthy of anyone’s friendship.
I had my own way of thinking, which appeared to be wrong.
Now in my 70th year I have put all the pieces together from reading and therapy and realize I was not as much a mess and different that I thought I was.
I reframed many, many incidents, and put the actual perpetrator in the position of ownership of the misdeed, and put myself in the position of a person who really did not hate herself, but was too easily scapegoated and shamed by others who were dysfunctional.
I have made my mistakes, certainly, but am in a much better position now to realize what happened in my life.
Therapy for me was from age 19 to the present, 50 years, but not steadily, as I found that NO therapist actually could connect with me and my failings.
I now know I am classified as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
Much Luck and Insight
Izzy
