OMG Deb,
This is Pure Gold! What insight you have about my dysfunctional family. Even I, who lived it, could never have put it this way, as much as my troubled mind was most assuredly trying.
I can see that the rages Dad had that were followed by beatings, shooting cats, beating animals, emptying a gun into the ground (which comes terribly close to wiping out his whole family) and Mom’s tight-lipped response, we children were faced with seeing this.
None of us did it!
A normal farm family: 2 parents 5 kids one without red hair , me, a baby brother who died, who is remembered by (me), would be 63. Father on School Board: Mother President of Church Group Kids work hard, do well in school. Yep all okay, except that little brown haired one is so damned sensitive, (me) spends a lot of time alone. Hmmm well normal enough I guess.
Yes. I was pleased that I never fought back like Dad’s rages. I was a good girl I remember all 3 sisters fighting back. I became the oddball, go to see psychiatrist at 20 to find out what is wrong. The others all obeying the law…nothing wrong with them. All got married. I didn’t. For almost 50 years fight a losing battle with therapists who find nothing wrong, yet I know there is and finally told Counselor last year that I might just have our roles reversed. No proof.
You don't deserve this Those words say a thousand Words Iz, No? AGREED and I wondered why, but told her it was a very intimate and caring statement. I felt her concern.
And when your Sis says... She really Cares... She really Does (I think) AGREED!
yet, yet, yet, yet, eh?
Now the supposed N one, I asked her how she saw me back when such and such an incident happened, an incident that was a setup of me on her part. She BLEW! Right! I was supposed to have forgotten? and she knows the bible backwards to protect herself.
Oh what an eye opener, and yet (yet) none of them went to therapy. Only I did the things that were different!
Wonderful Deb, Better than a therapist to piece all this together and you don’t write like one of us, so you cannot be one of my sisters in disguise.
Much Love
Izzy
--and thank you for the next with all the pertinent statements. A treasure trove of understanding from my friends. What a goldmine. What a day to rejoice!
Love
Izzy