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« Reply #15 on: May 09, 2009, 02:45:28 PM »
Hey Iz,

Yes I saw that movie.

You know what's really weird.  I was little when I seen that movie.

Now my memories of Andy were a nice, soft, and big smile.  Just a man that was comfort looking..

and as little as I was... I saw that smile that was so Creepy, even the change of his tone,  and ugly creepy person..

that it bothered me because Andy was Andy and he was playing a different *role* an actor that was just so damn Creepy that it interfered when I saw Andy back in Mayberry for I had seen him ( his looks) so very creepy and dark.  Weird eh, because I truly had no clue about the movie ...it was his change in looks..that bothered me.


And then I moved into Mayberry...Ex-h soft, quiet, nice guy big smile....then..That creepy, look...
They really do get creepy look.......

Not too far from real life, eh.   

Maybe my preceptions as a child were right on ... because I swear with N and the Creepy Image from one to the Other ...was so very true.


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Deb

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« Reply #16 on: May 10, 2009, 01:18:54 AM »
getnbtr

Ah! Just like anything, even CSI, problems solved in ½ or 1 hour. Not years, like real life.

Hops

Thanks That awful excrutiating pain was such an unknown' as to "How can one human being  hurt so much?" Now the pains are where I know they are and why and it's a bit easier on the mind. I just don't have enough things to keep me busy. I get through the days and sometimes wonder how. Gonna be lazy after all of this, if I make it out the far end.

Deb


Besides that, do you thing CREEPY is a good word to descibe Ol' Lonesome Rhodes and the Ns? When I first saw the show I would be in teens, but just knew he was 'bad'. Now I know Nism and that made it worse when I saw Pat falling for him, giving in to him, --and that little baton twirling chick? How like Ns.

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« Reply #17 on: May 10, 2009, 08:21:48 AM »
Happy Mother's Day, Izz: )

You have to keep yapping until you get your chair or one made for you.

This is unacceptable for you to keep struggling with a chair not made for you.

Just one thing after another after another.

So sorry and glad the pain's going away.

Let the healing begin.

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« Reply #18 on: May 10, 2009, 10:19:34 AM »
Happy Day to you too, Mo2

Well the excruciating pain at origin and tenderness/soreness of incisions is at a minimum, which is good. That was enough to drive one around the bend, but I still have the groin pain, that 'leaks ' over into my abdomen, that comes and goes and the new knee pain
40 years ago, 3 weeks after injury I developed a sharp stabbing, pulsating pain in my RIGHT knee. One resident. said it wasn't pain as I was paralyzed, but new resident said it was common in spinal cord injuries and would last about 6 month and slowly fade. Meanwhile I received med for that. In 6 months it had faded enough that I didn't need meds every 4 hours, but could get them just by asking, when I needed, as it acted up on occasions and even to this day. It acted up when there was a change in my body, getting my period, catching a cold, etc. and now I believe it is in sympathy with the trauma to my whole body and mind from this mess---so it comes and goes. The new pain, is the same, but in my LEFT knee and I am expecting that will last 6 months too.

There is so much involved. I could go out and buy myself a chair right now, right size, but that would have to encompass all the swelling, so  an extra 2" in width at least---that chair would not fit into my car. Do I plan to listen to them say I will not drive again? No! but it has been said twice so I could give up and go get the chair and stop bi&ching. Even if I did it takes about 3 months for it to be assembled, as it has extensions on the seat, for my height, so that my knees won't ache!

The head Physio has now sent a 'child' for me. She took notes about the chair, but the Head already knew. She was even smart enough to come into the hospital and take the loaner chair until I needed it again after the second surgery. I expect she believes my story about someone giving my damaged one a face-lift and saying it is Hospital's property. Now this child wants me to change my transfer procedure after 40 years? She was also miffed that I wasn't in bed when she came, but Dr. had said NO physio yet on my leg. I went to get into bed as I said this and she said "Never mind we'll do the arm exercises out here." (Arm and leg are to be done from bed, and she does want to watch,,,or maybe she doesn't...my pivot transfers. Arm can be done sitting up!)

Have you ever heard about being stuck between a rock and a hard place? I have a back brace I've kept all these years, but never had knee braces (Does such a thiing exist for this purpose? I don't know)

I have been awake since 2:30 yesterday afternoon.....that was from sleeping because of no sleep the night before. Now it has happened again and I will get dozy and hit the sack and ruin tonight's sleep. This all fits into pain and suffering.

Only the chair and (maybe) driving a car will be Losses for which I will claim....so where is the privacy I value with all these people runing through my place 5 days a week (maybe no more Sat and Sun when dressings had to be done daily.)

I ought not post when I am bi&chy from lack of sleep and with only 2 sips of coffee., but I might as well start my day.

I have 2 books in 1, nora roberts, and read one whole story from midnight til finished and never even yawned. I could feel the pain and changed positions at least 8 times then kept on reading. I just cannot lie there in the dark in pain, and let my mind wander into dark places.

Iz
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« Reply #19 on: May 11, 2009, 10:32:55 AM »
Izzy:

Sorry you're sleep deprived, have no privacy, in pain and dealing with the "child's" bumblings.

Oh ya.... and about your lost chair too: /

I imagine you have the heart of a whale by now.

There's no doubt you'll be up and driving as soon as possible.

Of course you will (((Izzy.)))




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« Reply #20 on: May 11, 2009, 03:10:51 PM »
Thanks

I wrote my sister, my daughter and my lawyer in one hell of a mood that day (yesterday) My lawyer was the only one who told me to go ahead and get mad, keep my journal, write it all down, as he has to be able to put forth all this on my behalf.

I finally, after 6 weeks and 2 days had a proper 'dump'. You can imagine my irritation and that relieves some groin paiin.

Imagine working out my own care, only to have a idiot strike me down and I lose the control I had over my food and liquid intake, so that I never have to mention this to people.
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« Reply #21 on: May 11, 2009, 03:18:39 PM »
Hey Iz,

Well now I had to sit and think about what I said.  The two N's I knew/know were of my ex-h and my N-friend. 

I thought my ex-h was a creepy as Andy was to me.  When I met him he looked like that All American Guy with An All American Job with the big smile and then...the Creepy...same look but different to me...As the person I saw to the person I saw...

Like Andy from mayberry to the Part he played in that Movie.  Two different ways I saw them both.  Inside Out.

Now I have never seen my Nfriend as Creepy.  Sure every thing about her changed, clothes, hair, color, totally opposite of what she use to do.  I didn't Creeped out though. 

Now I'm not sure truly if my ex-h was N or S or P.  He most probably was P, you know the story, so maybe that is the difference?
He was truly Evil/Sick minded.  With total intentions of Screwing over People (Evil) intentions and with harm if those ends justified his means.  More then N does though.

He even wrote about how he tricked people and that no one ever knew him (started at Childhood).  I found this by accident and it was only a few pages and that was after he was locked up.

Now I read that every P is an N but not every N is a P.  So maybe the creepy feelings was my Self/Alert that went off that this was a person of Danger more then just my finances, heart, and so forth. 

So maybe that's it Iz. 

I do not feel my Nfriend is Creepy like I did with ex-h or even the way Andy's appearance was on both his roles ..TV and the Movie.

So I guess Iz maybe the Creepy is for P/N. 

With Nfriend leave out the Creepy feeling and everything else applies.

With ex-h add in the creepy and then everything else and it all applies.

Hard to explain but thanks for asking me that question Iz. 

Never thought about that before since ex-h is long gone.  There is difference. 

Love
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« Reply #22 on: May 12, 2009, 12:43:21 AM »
The N I left could be very creepy. His appearance could change right before my eyes.
He could look older, puffier,red-faced and brown hair.
Then he could look slimmer in the face, paler (more normal) and have ½ his hair gray.
When the shorter hair at the front fell into'like bangs', his lashes looked longer and he looked like he was "looking for a man."
When some barber cut his hair right back to a nice manly cut he looked like my brother.

It was eerie.

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I told the 'child' therapist today that I didn't want to use a board transfer. I asked her if she really wanted me to change from a pivot transfer after 40 years. I did a pivot transfer and said , "There! One move, and how many did I make on the board? FIVE!" She agreed I was better at the pivot than when she first saw me and I said, "Because I am healing and my pivots were sloppy, but I was careful and now the pain has decreased that I am not skittsh about an onset of excrutiating pain." I won!

I also suggested that one exercise that wears me out be done first rather than last, because then I might not be worn out for the rest. I won! Wednesday she will take me to the Library! I realize that when I propel myself, I use my hips and that is why longer trips are out for me alone, right now.

So much for asking nicely and having a good argument for oneself!!!

YAY

Izzy

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« Reply #23 on: May 12, 2009, 02:41:09 PM »
You need to feel comfortable trusting yourself Izzy.

Not letting people, however well intentioned, sabotage you is very important.

You know what works and what doesn't.

Plenty of first hand practice and think what you have to teach!

Good job, Izz.

Mo2