Lack of empathy, or----FEAR? Sexy pic included!

[Izzy_*now*]

I went to hospital for a follow-up and back home to find another resident in a wheelchair sitting in our lobby, resting from shopping and home.  She asked and I told what happened, as I was using the taxi. I went around the corner to collect my mail while she and I finished talking then this guy comes along and they are talking and HE is talking about what ALMOST happened to HIM, and she stated some facts about her, and mentioned how I had just been struck by a car and he went on to compare something else that ALMOST happened to him.

I don't expect to be fawned over, but this guy was so NON-empathetic, or else lives in total fear that these ALMOSTS might come true. I didn't listen to the ALMOST. I just continued up on the elevator.

This left thigh is over twice the size of my right thigh.
Izzy

[getnbtr]

Oh my.... that must hurt! Sending you prayers for healing and peace for putting up with people that just do not know how they come off. Sorry to hear that you have to deal with any of it.
Were you on foot or in a car when someone ran into you?

[Izzy_*now*]

Hello getnbtr

Stranger yet I was in my wheelchair (40 years) on a sidewalk when a giuy backed out his driveway and nailed me!

Thank you for the thoughts
Izzy

[lighter]

Awwww, Izz.

Your poor leg.

::sending mommy hugs and chicken soup::

I wonder what happened to that man, that he's unable to look outside himself.

Lots of people in the world like that, unfortunately.

Mo2

[Hopalong]

So Izzz what'd they say?

Are you healing kind of okay now?

As importantly, what about pain?

Is it any better?

xo
Hops

[Ami]

Your leg looks like it has seen some hurting. I am sorry, Izzy.             Ami

[Izzy_*now*]

Thanks all
Yes, Hops am healing, but my favourite male nurse in ambulatory care said, "OH! We'll be seeing you for a while!"  ouch!

No infection, staples out again, still seeping and will stop when it's ready

The rod was from the upper incision to the knee and the middle and knee incisions had screws. 2 rods bolts were in the top incision that ran into my hip bone. One of those rods   bolts broke away and worked down to middle incision.

One step/day at a time, but I never walked on that leg, so that part is not the problem....only if I cannot use it as well as the right, which made them equal in movement before I was hit. Too soon for PT on hiip--I thought I was being rushed there.

Legal issues will be arising, and do you know?

No one has found my damaged wheelchair!! I think I am the only one who believes what I have figured has happened and now the Hospital owns it as a loaner.

It was mine to salvage or destroy, not to steal!

xx
Izzy

[gratitude28]

Ouch, Iz. You really got it good. That looks painful!!!
The guy sounds like a jerk... and, yes, I believe that there are lots of 'em out there.
Heal up and feel better!
Love, Beth

[getnbtr]

 Izzy,
Please tell me that the guy that hit you felt terrible!

[Izzy_*now*]

Yes Beth.
This was/is painful. First the break, then after the surgery with the rod and screws/bolts breaking up my bone, still unbelievable pain.
After second surgery, to remove hardware, a lessening of the pain, to where I didn't pull out my hair, but nighttime is bad. I don't sleep well and with 3 hours last night (or 4-7 this a.m.) I am tired and ready for bed, but bed means spending a long time finding a position, always a bit  different each time, takes so long, I am wide awake again.

Getnbtr
Since his Insurance Co. is paying all my expenses, I expect he will be found at fault. He said nothing to me at the time. (20 years ago, the driver got into the second ambulance (so just us) that was taking me to the big city for surgery, said "I'm sorry, Iz. I'll call the sitter and let her know", then he went out and hired a lawyer. He knew he was guilty. The lawyer automatically tells client to NOT talk to the injured party.
Depending on his personality and character, if he IS blaming himself, or is trying to foist the responsibilty onto me. Many people play neutral in these cases....ambulance, cop at the scene etc.

Time will tell what the legal system says!

Thanks
xx
Izzy

[debkor]

Hey Iz,

Ow, oh that looks so painfull.  I hope your pain goes and you can get more comfortable.

How can you hit someone and not say your sorry.  Fear, Shock, Possibly...

I wouldn't give a damn about the Insurance Company.  I would be saying I'm sorry.  That would cost me more then my insurance company paying out to the injured party.   I would not be able to live with myself without doing that.

Love
Deb

[getnbtr]

Izzy,
doesn't it make you wish that you lived in ole Mayberry with Andy and Aunt Bea? (hope you know what old TV show that I am talking about)
I wish you all good things, sorry that you are going through this.
Getnbtr

[Izzy_*now*]

hi deb

Yes painful. Between my nurse and me we have decided that I have a sensitivity to titanium. The hardware was put in place for 1st surgery then I was stapled together. The pain was as bad as the break. It never ceased. I was home and finally went to Dr. and he drained one incision, then we saw the loose bolt, so back to hospital to remove all hardware and be restapled. The wound has been seeping and bandaged daily. Wed. I was at follow-up in hospital and staples were removed. Suddenly the pain has lessened considerably and the seepage almost stopped. Instead of daily she is leaving me from today until Monday before checking the dressing.

I am still in pain but not the same, as in finally feeling an improvement. (1 month, 11 days)

My loaner wheelchair gives me a backache and my knees ache. It was not made for me, so I go lie down and that's my second only position. I nod off and find myself awake all night sometimes, usually every second night.

Hey getnbtr

Does you nick mean 'getting better"? Well it cheers me up, as not much does these days. I remember Mayberry and had a crush on Andy. He was so easy-going and wise. He made a movie"Face In The Crowd". Did you see it. He played a Narcissistic ba*tard!, a far cry from Mayberry. I have the DVD. I think it is seldom shown because it is so not like him.

Then where did he go? then Matlock!!! I couldn't bear to see him gray-haired in Matlock so never watched it. It made me sad, but finally, in re-runs about 2 years ago, I started and still love him.

Well back to bed--third time

xx
Izzy

[getnbtr]

Hi Izzy,

Yes, the nick name means getting better. I too had a crush on Andy. Watched Matlock a couple of times and never saw the movie "Face in a crowd". I still watch the reruns when he was in Mayberry.
That show is timeless and there is always a good story in each show, problems are solved with acts of kindness. Yup...I wanna one way ticket to good ole Mayberry!
Heal up quickly Izzy, no offence, but you need a better sexy picture on here!

getnbtr

[Hopalong]

I am so incredibly relieved to hear the pain's eased a bit, Izz.

Your suffering hurts.

loooooooooooooooooooooooove,

Hops