So I finally made my way the greeting card aisle of a store yesterday to make this year's Mother's Day card selection. Surrounded by a large assortment of husbands and children also looking for cards, I began the process of picking up a card, putting it down, picking up a card and putting it down. None were appropriate for the dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships that describe all N relationships.
Ultimately, I came away with two choices, both of which I bought. The first was a lovely card adorned with pretty flowers. On the cover it had one simple line: "It's all about you mom." If that doesn't sum up an Nmom I don't know what does. Inside, there were a couple of smarmy lines, but nothing too over the top, just pretty generic language. The second card was meant to be humorous. In very large letters the cover of the card screamed: "Happy Mother's Day from your Favorite." On the inside it said, "Oh please, it's so obvious." It made me laugh because firstly my extremely Nsis, the golden child, gets these kinds of cards every holiday. Second, the inside text just points glaringly to the truth that I am so NOT the favorite...in fact I'm not even on her radar. It's acknowledgement of my family's reality, even though no one but me will admit it. I haven't decided which one I will give her today...even though she is not around today, as she is spending the weekend with the Golden Child.
Should I go the safe route or the mischievious one? I guess my feelings of anger and bitterness are coming to the fore this weekend.
Happy Mother's Day to all of you who, as one poster has already said, should be congratulated for giving your own children what you deserved. May it be a memorable day.
