Sub text

[Ami]

 I used to be very good at feeling subtext but my NM made me  doubt my perceptions. I was relatively healthy b/c I could read between the lines(subtext)I trusted that  I could feel and see the world and as such know what to do and how to respond.
 My NM said"Who do you think you are ?"so many times that my sense of trusting myself left. I was defenseless  and hence  set up for a bad relationship in my attempts to find MY  self through s/one else. I needed validation for my existence from a relationship, as Richard says in his essays.
  Has anyone read the essays or can relate?
          Ami

[Ami]

When Richard says a therapist must be able to feel subtext, I  understand what he means. I have a Ma in Counseling . My understanding of people is at an emotional level as well as intellectual
 My NM who is a practicing therapist does NOT get subtext and so her dealings with clients is intellectual.(Lord help them)
 My M and I both studied Handwriting Anaylsis. I can get it intuitively as well as intellectually. She can study all the handwriting strokes but never feel out the person behind the writing.
 Maybe, N's say such stupid and clueless things b/c they don't get subtext. Is that it?       Ami

[Ami]

My NM  sees things in black and white. A person is good OR bad, perfect OR flawed.There are not subtleties.       Ami   

[Ami]

I think that N's do not have a sense of humor b/c they do not get subtext. I watched "Ali G "with my H. I was laughing so much I had to shut it off .
 My H hardly smiled.
 Has anyone else had this with their N and humor?       Ami