Coming back to the present.

[Lupita]

Mo2, it is the same always. They moved. i wanted to help and GFM said no. My son said no. GFM decided what was going to happen. GFM is in the new apartment all teh time. She cleans houses and she lives in the house of her kids. Now she will live in my son's apartmnet. Where I have to ask permission to go., But she sleeps there.

It is my son who despiseme depite that I devoted my life to him.

It is not GF or GFM.

[Lupita]

My son sais that I cause problems. He sais that the mother of a man has a different place in the family than the mother of the woman. I sacrificed a lot the same as the other, but I deserve less.

This society is totally wrong.

[Ami]

Dear Lupita
 I would have died for a M like you. You did a wonderful job based on the fact that your son is a fine young man. You are a winner as a M. Don't let anything take that away from you.     Ami
 

[Lupita]

Today I enforced a boundary for the first time in a long time. An important member of my church, she is the chair person of the choir and trustees and SPR something that is the most important committee for decisions, she shhhhh me during a worship commety meeting.
I wrote her an e mail asking her not to do it again.
She responded she will not do it again.

I was shaking when I opend the e mail.

I am stroggling fro respect.

They have to understand that if the do not respect me I will leave.

She says that they need me.

I would love to stay but they have to be respectful to me.

[lighter]

Hurray for you, Lupita.

Enforcing that boundary was a wonderful step.

Hopefully, you'll gain confidence with every boundary you enforce and it won't stay scary long.

(((Lupita)))