Hi Dawning...
Attached (bolted to!) for 5 years in my case, and detaching was pure h*ll for me, too...
So glad you find that helpful

It was
so hard to get my head around that one. The insightful things said, that gave hope to things once again, were so easy to believe when I wanted them to be true more than anything. In fact, I think I
never would have allowed myself to accept the truth consciously while being in contact with him in any way. I requested zero contact for 6 months (not knowing about him & Nism at that point), and only during that no contact time, was I able to step back and see what was really going on.
I think it has been several months for you? Has he ever contacted you again?
BT