Bones
It is overwhelming. This behavior has to be dealt with in the lower grades. Unfortunately, at all levels, teachers have issues with helicopter parents showing up to make sure their child's "specialness" (an extension of their ego) is respected. Rather than let the child learn good behavior from the failure of bad, they show up to insist that that their kid be given another chance to do what they were told had to be done the first time. This teaches the child that there is always a "work around" to every rule they don't like.
At the college level the parent cannot be given any personal information about a student without the student's permission. Usually by the time they find out junior hasn't been to class in weeks they are furious....with us!!! They end up following their child into the dean's office who then has to resist their demands for their "child" to be reinstated in classes he is hopelessly behind in and usually has no real interest in doing the hard work of catching up in.
Something else has changed too. Even the good students don't seem to appreciate the special attention you give to them. I loaned three books out to "good" kids last semester and allowed them to keep them over break. One was an eastern version of a BIBLE to a student who was very religious! I never saw the students or the books again! This is typical. Luckily I don't lend out books I'm too attached too, but lending has become the same thing as discarding to this generation. If its "unimportant" enough to be let out of your sight...it isn't worth being returned! I think this is a reflection of their own lack of self worth. Unfortunately, giving them your precious time and attention is also seen as a "freebie". All teachers do that, so it doesn't make their relationship to you "special."
If teacher's attention is no longer something of value, how do you motivate them? When it is seen as a teacher's job to praise you, you don't have to earn it. A BAD teacher doesn't give you attention...no matter how little you did to deserve it. This is a big change because it leaves us with nothing of value to exchange for THEIR attention. If they don't care for the subject matter...we have no bargaining chips on the table.
Perhaps the big question is what does give these people satisfaction? Most of us appreciate a challenge and learn about ourselves through challenge. These students resent being asked to "figure something out" or do anything that might suggest they have a deficit. I think we can see the answer to that in our mothers and fathers...nothing satisfies them...nothing ever will. But that won't stop them from going through life breaking rules, acting without civility and demanding specialness while leaving an endless trail of discarded books, jobs, and people in their wake.