Books on Narcissism

[Musician]

Hey everyone,

Can anyone recommend any good self help books for Narcissists. The books I have come across are primarily written for people in relationships with Narcissists and not for Narcissits themselves. Nina Brown is one good author. She has a book "loving the self absorbed". Hopefully there is a book out there for those who are self abosorbed, to become less so. Also what about resources for finding a counselor who specializes in treating Narcissits. I live in Orlando Florida. Any suggestions?
I attend a local church and spoke with my pastor, he suggested that by doing things for others, one can become less absorbed. Maybe, but from what I've read, the prognosis is dim for Narcissts. I sometimes become suicidal at the idea that I'll never get better. I'm trapped in a Narcissistic nightmare. Every once in a while, someone manages to convince me that I'm not a Narcissist and the suicidal ideations lift, but as soon as I come face to face with what I really am, that's when I get at my worst.

[seeker]

Hi musician,

Sorry that I haven't across your other posts and so I cannot tell if you are a man or a woman from your post...  But if you are male, you may want to check out a book called I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real.  It is about male depression and there's also a section on narcissism.  This author is pretty hard-hitting about guys being in denial about lack of relational skills.  

You might also try Controlling People by Patricia Evans.  Even though it is about other people coping with controllers, the language and examples include lots of info from the viewpoint of the controllers too.

Hope this is relevant for you.  Thanks for reaching out.  Seeker

[Anonymous]

Thanks Seeker,
I'll check them out. Also I placed posts under thesubject heading of chatting.
If you do a search for it you'll find my story.
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[Jenocidal]

I bought and read a book called "Narcissism - Denial of the True Self" - by Alexander Lowen, M.D.  It was a decent read.

Another good book I read was called: "the Drama of the Gifted Child - the Search for the True Self" (originally publlished as "Prisoners of Childhood") - by Alice Miller.

[Anonymous]

The therapist who can help you, will know about "psychodynamic" therapy. Therapists trained in this background have done a lot of work with narcissistically injured patients.


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[findingme]

musician: I'm not trying to be facetious, but have you been diagnosed as narcissistic?  I've not met one that was really willing to admit, let alone examine, those traits in themselves & seek help.  Perhaps you just have some traits??