Author Topic: Nmother coming in 1 week--not fair!!  (Read 2610 times)

Ami

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Re: Nmother coming in 1 week--not fair!!
« Reply #15 on: November 17, 2009, 07:25:22 AM »
Dear Bear,
 I am gonna tell you my story cuz it is about trusting the WRONG people, such as NM's. I trusted and wanted and trusted and wanted a mother ,father and husband. When I needed help from an abusive H,my M sided with HIM against me. I still wanted a Mother, Father and Husband.
 When I needed a place to escape abuse, my M sided with my abusive H . I thought I was my fault for making my bed and lying in it. i.e. marrying him. I stayed and stayed and got more beaten down until my 21 yr.old committed suicide, a wonderful pre-med college student.
 I stayed and stayed and hoped and hoped for N's to become normal. That was my life course. I blamed myself when they didn't. Take my life story and add it to the mix when you think about what to do with your M.     Love You,     Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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bearwithme

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Re: Nmother coming in 1 week--not fair!!
« Reply #16 on: November 17, 2009, 03:45:31 PM »
 Ami: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

I got so teared up reading your story.  Your story is horrific and I'm sorry that happened to your beloved son.  I'm speachless as to why this happened to you and your son, so undeserving. 

I know what your saying here.  I am so emotionally drained by it all.  This is very hard and I need some guts to do it.  I'm hoping it comes to me soon.  Your story hit home the need for me to make a decision about this.

Ami, I love your input here so don't go anywhere.  I'm staying here as well...

thank you soooo much.

Bear

Ami

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Re: Nmother coming in 1 week--not fair!!
« Reply #17 on: November 17, 2009, 05:16:17 PM »
Ami: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

I got so teared up reading your story.  Your story is horrific and I'm sorry that happened to your beloved son.  I'm speachless as to why this happened to you and your son, so undeserving. 

I know what your saying here.  I am so emotionally drained by it all.  This is very hard and I need some guts to do it.  I'm hoping it comes to me soon.  Your story hit home the need for me to make a decision about this.

Ami, I love your input here so don't go anywhere.  I'm staying here as well...

thank you soooo much.

Bear


That was so sweet ((Bear))). I think that when we have NM's we are too innocent. We were so traumatized when we were innocent so we can not face TRUE evil when it comes in to our lives.  We cannot protect against evil cuz we can't see it. I know that I am JUST starting to see evil in people (and also in myself cuz we all have the potential for it).
Only now can I begin to protect myself.
I wish I could have seen it then and left my H and not trusted my untrustworthy parents . 
 Love you  (((Bear)))        Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung