The N is Stupid

[bearwithme]

I think the Ns tune in and out of other people's feelings to suit their needs: when it's to screw you over, they know what's going on. After the damage is done, THEN they play stupid.

Oh my, this is sooooo damn true!!!!!

[HeartofPilgrimage]

Hi Ami, The Ns in my life right now are my soon to be ex-daughter-in-law and her mother. Sheesh! What pieces of work they both are. Thanks for asking.

[bearwithme]

I like this thread!  I get to tell everyone that my NM is plain ol' stupid--and laugh out loud!!!!

My NM is so stupid:  All through my childhood she called me dumb or slow and yelled at me if I didn't understand something.  She pounded it into my head over and over again how to do things "right" and how I was always doing them wrong, and I mean always. So why is it that during her visit she couldn't follow simple instructions like not leaving her pills on the floor because the baby might get to them, or making sure that she didn't leave the carving knife on the kitchen table while the baby was sitting right next to it, or reading the simple instructions I left her on how to turn on the T.V. that even a 6 year old could understand, "Red button means ON" and "Black button means OFF."  It's not her age either, she's always been like this.

So why didn't I go off on HER yelling and screaming in HER face, "hey you dummy, don't you get anything???...why are so so damn slow???....you're doing in all wrong.....you're so fu#$!$% stupid!!!!!!"


AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH I just want to scream. Or better yet, vomit.

Bear

[bearwithme]

YES...I noticed this after not seeing NM for a long time.  She isn't capable of genuine emotional connection or intellligence during conversations. No wonder she talks about people's weights, b/c that's all what she knows how to do.  When people talk about their jobs, she jumps in and says my hair is oily in front of everyone. WTF does that have to do with anything?


I've noticed that other people do think her mannerisms are strange, BUT they don't say anything.  She doesn't realize that people find her rude. She thinks everybody adores her, but nobody has the guts to tell her off. 

This is just a classic!!

[nolongeraslave]

i can't believe how I bought the N's POV on life. I was so, so blind!                      Ami

Aren't we taught that parents know best?  It's bullshit, but that's what society drills into us at a young age. It doesn't help when the N drags other people in to support their case (my mom would tell me how all of her co-workers think I'm some weird whiny baby).   You had no other choice but to believe what the N taught you.

[bearwithme]

NLAS:  **sigh**  I CAN believe your NM did this.  How sick.  N parents don't know best and unfortunately we, as children, looked up to them as gods.  They were supposed to teach us life not rob it from us.

[Ami]

I like this thread!  I get to tell everyone that my NM is plain ol' stupid--and laugh out loud!!!!

My NM is so stupid:  All through my childhood she called me dumb or slow and yelled at me if I didn't understand something.  She pounded it into my head over and over again how to do things "right" and how I was always doing them wrong, and I mean always. So why is it that during her visit she couldn't follow simple instructions like not leaving her pills on the floor because the baby might get to them, or making sure that she didn't leave the carving knife on the kitchen table while the baby was sitting right next to it, or reading the simple instructions I left her on how to turn on the T.V. that even a 6 year old could understand, "Red button means ON" and "Black button means OFF."  It's not her age either, she's always been like this.

So why didn't I go off on HER yelling and screaming in HER face, "hey you dummy, don't you get anything???...why are so so damn slow???....you're doing in all wrong.....you're so fu#$!$% stupid!!!!!!"


AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH I just want to scream. Or better yet, vomit.

Bear

I was SOOOO good to her and what did she do--kick me when I was down and collude with my abusive H against me . That is an NM!!!!!!!!!     xxxoo  Ami