As most of you, I have been criticized and vilified for my appearance, most of my life. My NM told me I was looking "bloated" in front of my SIL. On Thanksgiving, in my own home. She has taken particular interest, from early on, in my hair, the way I may happen to style it, or color it. This criticism continued well into my 50's.
I tried a variety of things, reasoning with her (Mom, I am an adult, 50 years old, isn't it time you stop criticizing me?" I've tried sarcasm, "Gee, Mom thanks SO much for the compliment!" I have given dagger looks. Nothing works, she is impenetrable.
Lately, (I think she may be wanting to buy her way into heaven) she has done nothing but compliment me, it is so fake, it makes my skin crawl. I have decided if she insults me again, I have two options. Tell her what she says is "inappropriate" or simply tell her to "Shut the f### up!" Right now, the latter is sounding really good to me.
Hugs, all ,Judy