What to make of this?

[Lucky]

I am still searching for a therapy that will work like a miracle solving my anxiety. Might this be something?
http://www.henrygrayson.com/therapy

[swimmer]

Hi Lucky-  I think the therapist and type of therapy is a highly pesonal decision..... In my opinion and experience, a therapist who let's the client sit in the drivers seat.  I don't do well with schools of thought.... I think recovering from a relationship with a narcissist is a very fragile process.  The client must find thier way out of a disempowered state.  My old therapist would let long periods of silence lapse (3-5 minutes) and it was awkward at times, but it helped me pull myself out.  Subconciously I experienced my thoughts as mine, I felt more 'real' when I walked out of the office.  Sometimes crying, but other times laughing, or perplexed... But never squashed or directed. 

Write your goals, interview, and choose.  A good therapist will let you 'warm up' to them and earn your trust. 

Hope I didn't take your thread on a tangent by misundstanding.     

Swimmer 

[Portia]

Lucky, I would be highly skeptical of anyone who has anything to do with appearing in movies along the lines of The Secret.

And I'd pretty incredulous about any therapist who say he has been strongly influenced by insights from Quantum Physics and other new sciences, and has developed a powerful synergy, combining these into a unified system for spiritually and scientifically oriented psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.

(That's almost directly quoting his website above. Maybe someone could explain to me exactly what all that means?)

Otherwise Lucky, if you like, I'll tell you what I really think.

[Hopalong]

Lucky, Swimmer's description is very powerful --and empowering-- to me (a veteran of muuy therapists):

My old therapist would let long periods of silence lapse (3-5 minutes) and it was awkward at times, but it helped me pull myself out.  Subconsciously I experienced my thoughts as mine, I felt more 'real' when I walked out of the office.  Sometimes crying, but other times laughing, or perplexed... But never squashed or directed.

I also ditto everything Portia said.

I think you DON'T want a "secret" or a "miracle".

What Swimmer is describing is very respectful therapy, that actually is acknowledging the healing strength that is already inside you, not waiting on a secret shelf of a mysterious secret library that only the "special people" know about. A good therapist trusts and recognizes this healing potential that's about your own life force, your own mind's deep wisdom and desire to heal itself. It's all already there, even when you can't perceive it. The therapist creates a safe and welcoming space for YOU to allow that strength and wisdom, from within your own self, to become apparent to you.

So you can befriend it, and begin to trust it yourself. That, and time, and observance of nature (imo) is what heals anxiety.

I suffered from intense anxiety and panic attacks for years. Haven't had one in longer than I can remember. Time, and faith (in the sense of just practicing the verb "trust" -- the antithesis of what I was taught by NMom, but present in my Dad's actual faith) really do work.

Start small. Do you have faith you can do something that relaxes and delights you, for just one hour, tomorrow? What would that be?

love,
Hops

[Lucky]

My hobby relaxes me but sometimes it can also give me a lot of anxiety. My hobby is my horse and in the past I owned more then one horse and sometimes I got stressed out because of all the health problems the horses suffered and other kinds of problems with regard to the horses. Nowadays it is only one horse and one is enough because horses need quite a lot of maintenace. But because I am quite busy during the day (fulltime job, go to my horse directly after work) I only have time for therapy in the evening and most therapists only work till six, therefore I am always hoping for a quick fix  .