Author Topic: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?  (Read 3795 times)

Ales2

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Re: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?
« Reply #15 on: July 09, 2010, 02:41:10 AM »
Yes yes - no NMoms in the hospital.  A friend had the same problem with her Mother. When they wheeled her into delivery, she was on a fetal monitor and when her mother came into her room the moms and babies heart rate would jump. first the nurses told Nmom to wait outside. She told them she doesn't  take orders from nurses. They got the doctor. first the dr asked her to "wait outside" and when she refused, he told her she was risking the baby. Nmom called the dr a liar so he showed her the monitor with the ticker running. she still refused. he just turned to the nurse and said get security. she was escorted out all while my friend was in labor and was not allowed permission to even enter the hospital without written permission from the doctor.  Nism at its worst, she never once cared about how my friend (her daughter) felt, she just wanted her way. ugh.

And, yes, yes, yes to twins!

Ales2

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Re: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?
« Reply #16 on: July 09, 2010, 07:28:04 PM »
This morning when I got up - I just remember this moment in high school when my mother told me that the WORST thing that could ever happen to a girl is to get pregnant..... I was 15, so maybe she really did mean GIRL but it seems her attitude toward pregnancy never changed, not when I was 25, 30 or 35, and when my brother and his grifriend had an unplanned pregancy (he 25, she 26) she thought it really WAS the WORST THING ever....so here I find myself wondering all this time, why is it that I dont have kids? Why is it that I missed this part of MY life....

As I mulled over this thought...and thought her about an N I thought....I get it ......she never wanted me to have a child because it would change HER life.....

Anyone else ever felt something like this?

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Re: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?
« Reply #17 on: July 09, 2010, 08:24:43 PM »
I found my pregnancies, one at 37 and one at 39, were both easy and boring, while one of my SIL's had 3 nightmare pregnancies in her twenties.

I think some women are built for easy pergnancies and some aren't.

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Re: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?
« Reply #18 on: July 11, 2010, 08:43:02 PM »
((((Ales))))

The question beneath the question?

What is your psyche telling you? Or perhaps it's your hormones?
(You can endure these messages and they will pass in time, if that's the choice.
You won't always be pulled...)

You thinking about it? Even w/o the picket fence?

love,
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

Ales2

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Re: Anyone have experience with pregnancy after 40?
« Reply #19 on: July 13, 2010, 01:39:02 PM »
Hops - I am definitely being pulled. I've always wanted kids, always wanted a family. I wont do it alone, because that is not what I want. I took me a very long time to figure out why I have such difficulty connecting with others and discovering my mother is an N and why certain things are very hard me suddenly makes sense. Now that I am getting stronger, I'm feeling like I would be a good mother and I know I would never get any support or acceptance from her (and why) and I can live without it - although its still sad to me.  So, maybe I'm more ready than I've ever been assuming its not too late for me. I know alot of friends have had babies late - but not all of their reasons were the same as mine, so I was looking on the board for others with similar learning curves.

thanks all for your support.