The Dark

[Meh]

In the midst of impossible situations, out-of-control crisis and darkness..when things look terrible...how do you cope? What things do you say to yourself? What gets you through?

[Sealynx]

I remind myself that I have endured much more than anyone else I know and done so successfully.

[Logy]

There is a light.  That has protected me when my actions were meant to cause me harm.  When life is dark I think about my last dark period.   It felt like hell.  And I see that I am still alive.  So here comes another dark part.  It's a wave I need to ride.  If I was able to ride out the last wave, I can take this wave as well.  Each wave feels insurmountable until I realize I also thought that about the last one.  Then the faint light becomes brighter.  I move on.  But always know another wave will come.

[bearwithme]

There is a light.  That has protected me when my actions were meant to cause me harm.  When life is dark I think about my last dark period.   It felt like hell.  And I see that I am still alive.  So here comes another dark part.  It's a wave I need to ride.  If I was able to ride out the last wave, I can take this wave as well.  Each wave feels insurmountable until I realize I also thought that about the last one.  Then the faint light becomes brighter.  I move on.  But always know another wave will come.

Logy:

This is so me.  Most things you post are so similar to me/my experiences and feelings, it's really uncanny at times.  So in that:  Ditto.

Bear

[Guest]

I open the good red wine and savour the taste. How good are grapes! Life is sweet in that moment.

I remind myself: everyone gets to die. Everyone. I find this very calming.

Thinking about the good in some people gets me through.

[sKePTiKal]

I remind myself: "It's OK - even if it sucks. Everything will be all right - eventually."

And I remember, that even when it seems EVERYTHING is out of my control, I always have a choice about how I respond to that. I always have control of me. I release myself from responsibility for controlling that which is someone else's responsibility. I can't possibly know all there is to know about situations or what resolution or solution lies right around some corner of time - I am just one brain, one heart, one consciousness. I ask for someone else's view on the situation, if I can explain it at all (even badly) so that there is more than one brain's knowledge, experience, and insight looking at the "problem". And I take their suggestions seriously as I may have been denying myself accepting that path to a solution/resolution for some habitual, foo-based pattern of response - although this one is something I'm still learning.

And when all else fails - I ask someone for a hug.

(((((((((((((((((((((muffinbuster)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[teartracks]

In the midst of impossible situations, out-of-control crisis and darkness..when things look terrible...how do you cope? What things do you say to yourself? What gets you through?

You call on the knowledge gathered through other dark times. 

An understanding friends to whom I can share my feelings.

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[Sela]

I pray a lot.

I only allow myself to focus on the darkness for so long before I remind myself to take a break and do something else..... like walk, weed my garden, rest and visualize something calming or read.  My brain can only take so much pain I guess.  Then it quits and somehow causes me to either switch modes or eat chocolate.

Sela