hi OC.
How are YOU feeling?
Did Grandma do her own cleaning and laundry, or the niece's? Did Grandma offer without strings, or did niece ask her .... with no $trings?
Is niece in good health?
I am just going by what I have done, and that is to ask for no help from family. I will see myself through until I am in Grandma's condition, and go to a hospice. No family member has offered any assistance, except for the 1 week my sister came here in April, this year. She 'walked' around and did things her way and now that she is gone, I am back to doing things at my way and happier for it!
I have had my therapist put things back in places that I can reach, as opposed to 'criticizing' my sister, but Sis doesn't know any better and never even tried to learn. My therapist knows when to help and when to leave me alone!
Love
IZZY