Hey Everybody. Satuday nite I made plans with a friend in the afternoon to attend a party at 7:45 that nite. I was supposed to go to her house to pick her up/share the driving. When I got to her house, she was not there and had left a message (6:40) and text (6:45) for me that said she and another friend were going to the movies instead, would I care to join them. The movie started at 7:15. I never got the message on time, so did not return her call. Effectively, she made plans with someone else before she even contacted me. I felt ditched. Later that evening and again Sunday, we exchanged a series of emails. In the old days, I would never have said or done anything, I would just have let the friendship die. No more, I speak my mind, while trying to stay very civil. She claims that she is justified in her actions because I did not call her back. Let me know what you think.
Me to her - Sunday 1pm
Don't use response time as a means to deflect from being accountable for your willful actions. You went ahead and made plans with someone else before you even contacted me, which is simply disrespectful.
Comments such as "I'm childish" and "you won't babysit me on email" are inappropriate and resolve nothing.
(She called and left me a message calling me all sorts of inappropriate things. For this reason, I avoided a phone conversation with her, I wanted to choose my words very carefully.)
From her to Me - Sunday 9 am:
Call mE. This is getting ridiculous. Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
From me to her Sunday morning 8 am:
Nope. This is not about response time, you did not honor the plans you made with me. When you called and texted me you had already made a plan with someone else and went on your way without any consideration for me. Had you waited until the time we were set to meet, then you could have included me.
From her to me, Sunday morning 7am:
I called & texted you. You have a tendency to take your time responding and I wasn't sure you were going to do the same thing again, and after not hearing back for an hour...
Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
From me to her Saturday nite:
It was rude to go ahead and make plans before you talked with me. In doing so, you effectively ditched me and I don't appreciate it.
