PR - attachment throery stuff - not so much in the formal theoretical sense but in the way it comes up out of each of us. The focus on "Mother" or "father" is only so much as they have taken up residence in me, rather than the humans those words attach to.
I like that part about letting go of bitterness, et.al.
I understand that while I have worked on that off and on for some time that now, for me, my approach is more in the direction of that story I posted in a different thread, by making room for those sqelching memories to arise rather than attacking the bitterness, anger, etc as an issue.
I feel some true relief in getting to this point, where I see the approach, even without the experience of the healing. It has been an absurdly long journey to even get here. Would that it could have been shorter by decades. Would that I could help some human being, any human being shorten their journey. Would that be something like cracking a shell for a chick which needs to chrack it's own shell? I don't know. Part of my soul just aches because noone helped me but being alone and without help is both part of the wounding and part of the legacy. I wouldn't wish it on any human - not any.