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bulimia question

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BonesMS:
Here's a possible resource that could be helpful:

http://www.oa.org/

There's also online and telephone meetings.

Bones

Hopalong:
I echo Bones' suggestion of using the larger eating disorder organizations as a resource...

best
Hops

Nonameanymore:
Thanks Hops, will def look it up

Meh:
I "live" with someone who makes herself throw up. I can hear her doing it in the bathroom. It's heartbreaking and also it freaks me out and I wonder if I could do anything to help. But then I tell myself I'm over loaded with my own compounding issues and I should not get involved. She is not a close friend of mine but she seems like a person who has had too much misfortune through no fault of her own and she is pretty young still.

I don't know much about it. I know that she was raped when she was younger by a step father. I know that she was married to a strange older man who turned out according to her to be having an incestuous gay relationship with his own uncle.

She sees a counselor but that doesn't seem to help and she can't afford a fancy treatment center I guess.

It's hard for me to believe how hard it is for some people to get the help they need.

So, I don't know much about it only that the current person in my life who suffers from this sort of thing has a very traumatic past.

Nonameanymore:
Thanks for sharing boat.
It's interesting that you point out a few things that ring true for me this morning. We did a self-development seminar the weekend before and although the instructor told us not to go around helping people before we strengthen ourselves, like the recovering codependent that I am, I went around 'helping' people (in quotes because sometimes I do it when it's unsolicited) and today after a long time I woke up burned out...

She is back on her antidepressants and as per the other discussion on this board about them, it means to me that she went back to the 'easy' way of dealing with it rather than her core issue, although I have to admit that I did read everywhere on the net that it's the only actual chemical treatment to bulimia.

We had a discussion the other day and I expressed how sad I was and that I did some research, trying to point out some of the health issues involved and told her that I will not enable her by buying food and eating it with her is she will throw it up.

A general realisation that includes myself is that like with any addictions or addictive behaviours, a person cannot do something or stop something for someone else other than themselves. So for now I will stick to my own recovery for my issues and be there for her when she decides to change.

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