Toxic shame doesn't really imply a PD, nor vice versa. Perhaps they co-exist sometimes... it's not a given correlation, because it is "fixable" with attention and effort and compassion.
Toxic shame, a totally different animal than healthy shame, is when a person's self-image, self-respect, whole concept on oneself... has been manipulated, twisted, made into an object of ridicule and tagged with a "bad" or "unworthy" label... and then stuffed back down one's own throat, and then forced to swallow and digest and "be" this... because someone else SAID so... while the "self" in question here... was powerless to object or reject the definition of self, as such an abomination.
Or believed themselves powerless.
By inference, with toxic shame, the person is forced to accept that (usually) a specific "other person" is wiser, smarter, more insightful, and perfectly within their rights to completely dominate and control the person who has swallowed this idea that they are less than... other people.
Possibly, there is a remedy akin to the remedy for healthy shame - where one is able to accept the wrong done and then forgive oneself. And that remedy requires another person... who is able to compassionately relieve that awful shame, by presenting another authoritative point of view. Over-ruling the original wound of toxic shame. Slowly, but surely persuading the "victim" here... that it was all wrong... but the responsibility of it; the accountability... doesn't belong with the "victim". The "victim" is a human being, and as such capable of thinking and feeling and even acting on, the whole range of emotional responses.
Including turning on one's self because of the survival instinct and anger combined in a nasty cocktail. Beating oneself up with "OH I should've..." or comparing oneself to other "higher" human beings and then over-reacting on how oneself is lacking... or holding unrealistic expectations of one's normal ability; perfectionism... or being over-responsible for things outside of the scope of one's control... or even having a series of physical "accidents" - actually hurting oneself... and self-destructive behavior and self-sabotage. Toxic shame's whole "intent" is to wipe out the existence of the self, as it is naturally. And yet, the survival instinct in all of us will fight tooth and nail to keep alive... setting up an internal conflict.
Occasionally, the person suffering from the toxic form of shame turns it outward, in hostility. Relieving their agony of the conflict between shame and survival instinct by inflicting the same unjust power of shame onto others... and even, attempting to control others completely through that shame... in other words, the gamut of Nism.
At least, this is how I understand the difference between healthy shame and toxic shame. For now. I doubt that it's complete or even that deep. But perhaps it helps explain how people can be "split" within themselves and one way back, to being a whole person again. Over time, one can learn to forgive oneself for those instinctual, desperate measures taken to survive and the initial swallowing of and perception of powerlessness... and then address the behaviors that arose from such a perverted sense of self being. Even over time, one retains a sensitive "button"... to criticism, judgement, even amiable teasing because it pushes on scar tissue. Self-doubt remains. Trust of oneself has to be earned; proven. And it takes a while to get comfortable with the idea that it's human to "matter"... at least to oneself.
That's my left brain explanation. My right brain explanation is simply that it's never too late to learn to love and care for oneself, that one matters to oneself... and that if what's necessary to care for myself conflicts with what others expect or want from me... I can put myself first without also beating myself up for it. No one has to "approve" of it or me. Except me.
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