Hey Lupe:
Set some boundaries to keep yourself safe.
Did this guy tell you he wasn't married, then turn around and admit he is, then turn around and say he's going to get a divorce, but you have to BE with him first?
I'm not following entirely here, but it's perfectly reasonable that you would keep him at a safe distance while he's going through a divorce.
Also perfectly reasonable that you would enjoy your new dance partner, and have the time of your life dancing, no matter what's going on.
It sounds like G's wife wants him back, and he's using that as a reason to finally get divorced...... you aren't the reason, and you don't want to be.
Keep busy. Let him know you aren't an apple to be picked off a tree just bc he's reaching. You can put boundaries in place, and defend them. That's what healthy people do, Lupe.
I wouldn't date a married man, and it's reasonable that you wouldn't either. If he puts a lot of pressure on you to change your mind, THAT's a red flag. If he can't respect your feelings when they go against his desires, then he's more interested in controlling you than having a relationship.
Pay attention to what he says and does. If he gives you a voice, and wants you to be happy, then he'll keep his distance, respect your request and come back when he's a single man. HOpefully he'll find you dancing and happy and in a place to want a relationship, not NEED one.
Protect yourself, cause no one else will.
BTW, what's going on with your son?
Is he doing OK?
Lighter
