Happy Thanksgiving everybody! I hope everyone here manages to do something nice for themselves today, find some peace, feel happiness. I'm so grateful for you all, Dr. Grossman, and the types of conversations that exist on this board...
You all make it so much easier to find dark humor in the N-insanity (there must be a new term in there somewhere, maybe, "N-sanity").
I'm in the turkey trenches at the moment and finding it all rather hilarious. This visit with NM has brought new developments:
- NM has purged her house of almost every photo of me, and hung pictures of my GC sister everywhere. So eerie. There's also a wall of photos devoted to my two-year-old daughter, which features a big painted sign next to it that reads "Grandchildren are God's reward for not killing your children." Subtle huh? That passive aggressive move had DH and I in stitches.
- This morning, NM actually worked herself into fake tears. It was an Oscar-worthy performance for sure! And I quote: "I'm getting old! I won't be around forever you know! You have to accept that! That's why you really need to be closer to your sister...Family is so important. The two of you need to have each other to lean on." It's all such a sham attempt to cover her tracks. To make it look like NM is trying to reconcile GC sister and I when NM was the one who has always pit us against each other, stirred the pot, played favorites, started rumors, made my relationship with GC so bad to begin with.
- Oh, NM who is being very angry/controlling about the terms of my N-sis' divorce, made some statement about how she was probably going to get herself arrested. I said, "And why would you get yourself arrested NM?" Oh, she said for bringing N sis' daughter to visit me. I managed to gently but firmly say, "If you kidnap your granddaughter without permission, bring her over state lines, etc., you'll never see that granddaughter again. You'll have a criminal record, NM. There will be consequences." Never really stood up to her like that before. But I was really horrified.
Did manage to set a boundary though. NM was trying to say she wanted to bring GC sis and I together and mediate. Pardon my French, but are you *hitting me?! Very calmly managed to say, "Please don't inject yourself. It makes things worse. I feel more comfortable working it out myself." Wanted to scream, "Stop triangulating you evil phony!" But did not. Doubt she accepted this (NM will constantly be whispering about me in GC's ear), but it felt good to assert myself.
One day left at NM's house...Only one day. Lord, give me strength! Give me patience! She's not in her right mind, I am. She's incapable of acting any other way, but I CAN relate to her differently. Kay x
