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Father with cancer and narcissistic mother
Hopalong:
No apology needed, Lucky!
Thanks for your compassion.
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Hops
gratitude28:
Lucky,
How are you? How is your dad? I just went through the same exact situation. I called my dad every day and I went to see him. It was so hard when he died. Please talk to him as much as you can now - even calls or whatever he is up for.
Sending you so much love. I am glad your dad has you to love him while he is sick. I wrote my dad a letter a few weeks before he died to tell him about many things - he started wanting to apologize and change near the end and I wanted him to know I always loved him. Maybe you can write your dad a letter? Relive some memories with him. He will love that.
Love,
Beth
Lucky:
My father is in hospital now. On Wedsnesday the pain became unbareble. I love him so much and I am feeling so much pain because of his suffering. I will do whatever I can to see him and let him now that I love him and care about him. It is so horrible to see him suffer and deteriorate. I am so sad about it.
gratitude28:
Lucky, I know how hard it is. Please write to me any time. My personal email is elizgomez@hotmail.com. There is no way to prepare yourself - it's so hard. Like you said, just spend as much time with him as you can now and let him know how much you love him. How is he doing? Is he ok with going? For me, the hardest part was that my dad was not ready to die. He was scared. I want so badly to make things different. I so wish I could have helped him in some way.
Lucky:
After the terrible pain he suffered Wednesday, I think he does not mind going any more. He said he does not want to suffer more of that kind of pain again. He is however all the time worried about my mother.
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