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Meh:
Hops, I have been reading. Refraining from responding, wrote and then erased. Anyways, your boss is a major A-hole and I hope he has a heart attack and I don't care if I go to hell for saying that. He could have said a lot of other things, what he said wasn't in anyway constructive. I'm just thinking about what a world of difference there is between a person/friend who wants us to succeed and do well versus a person who wants us to fail and wants to see us suffer. A WORLD of difference. I wish there were more supportive and good hearted people in this world. Its sort of a war for one's own soul.  

XXX Good luck XXX

sKePTiKal:
Hops, I used to do those kinds of sick days - I REALLY needed them, too. It helped me keep on at my job, longer that I really needed to be there (for me)... made it possible. It actually got to the point where I told my Nboss that I needed - and was going to - take one Friday off a month for awhile to de-stress. He let me do it... probably because I became a real pain in his @ss... while I was figuring out what boundaries were, at work: which ones I could respond swiftly to defend... and the others that didn't really matter. I still chuckle over the time he barged into my office (I subsequently learned to lock the door) to insist I drop everything & do something totally unreasonable right that moment... and I just looked up and said NO, I'm not going to do that... we can discuss it in our weekly meeting next week.

hee hee heee!

Hopalong:
Well, his radar must've belatedly been going off because when I didn't go to work today he wrote me what sounded like a pretty sincere apology for his tone during the meeting. He didn't reference that particular comment but said he had a great deal of respect for me and wanted to "show it more."

I accepted it, and at the same time spelled out how that remark felt to me at the time.

So that's good.
It's too bad it's such a struggle for him to respect a female, but at least ... there's some awareness maybe.

The real bliss is that he's off on a Central American vacation now for 10 days.

:)

Hops

Meh:
Why do jerks get vacations. Why GOD?

Hopalong:
Due to his own efforts AND the effort of me and 2 others, he's made millions.
Got 40 acres and a "green" architect, and built a spectacular home.
(When I asked to be paid the same as the men with same senority...well, you've heard that saga.
He doesn't feel any shame that the only female (except for the last hire who is the store clerk)
and the senior creative person, drives a 14 y/o car and wears the same Goodwill clothes, year
after year. Something, probably learned from the guru, feels "right" to him about this. Or at least,
he's untroubled by it.

Sexism or pay inequity isn't part of "his dharma" to fix. He said, "Should I feel obligated if
you 'feel poor'?"

There are so many great moments. He raves about the young men who work for him, one
having been an eagle scout, another whose family had a factory...on and on. Three years
after I'd been working for him daily more closely than anyone else--building the brand and
the site and 50 articles on the blog and practically every "public image" deciision we've made,
and having editing every single thing he's written for public distribution (and few of his letters
to lawyers) he hired me he said one day, don't you have a Master's degree in journalism? He had
no idea what my degree was in (creative writing) and has never asked me one word about any
of my 30 years of previous jobs. It's like --any job you had before working for MEEEEEEEE is
not worth my notice.

One of my other favorites was when he remarked one day , "Any English major could do your
job, but I could never replace THEM (the two young men)."

When it's not so oppressive it feels like great material for a memoir...except my fondest
hope is to retire soon enough that I can spend years never thinking about him.

But I am not wailing right now because it's peaceful at work in his absence.

PR, I love the defiance stories too. In the private sector in a bad economy though,
I could not assert myself that overtly to Nboss. Nbosses do retailiate and such.

Hops

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