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Phyll

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Re: Meditation
« Reply #15 on: September 24, 2021, 05:53:33 PM »
I like adult coloring books and coloring mandalas.  Yes it seems rather juvenile but it too is a form of meditation for me, as is water coloring, drawing or other modes of artistic expression.  At times it teaches me patience because it takes a long time to complete.

At a retreat years ago we did an exercise in which each of us made our own mandala within a circle.  The shapes and sizes of shapes drawn within the circle and filled with color were to represent where each of us spent our time and energy.  As I neared completion of mine I realized where my life was out of balance, and what was missing that was important to me. The ever- elusive balance.

I have not felt a need to do that exercise since I retired, as I am so much less busy than I used to be. That may be precisely why I could benefit from doing one now.  I might discover what is missing and can make adjustments in making good use (I will avoid the word productive) of my time.  Not that productivity is a bad thing, especially if it earns a sense of accomplishment. It is just that my values on what I feel is important in my life has shifted.  I don't want to feel so driven anymore.  Enjoying life.

Hopalong

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Re: Meditation
« Reply #16 on: September 24, 2021, 07:33:48 PM »
So love that conclusion, P...really happy to read it!

A friend and I were visiting today and we kept bringing up various urgencies and worries and we-must-save-the-world-quick distresses, and she kept saying:

NO! I'm RETIRED!

Made me laugh but I took her point. Easing into my 70s, these thoughts are demanding a new balance. Don't give up on the world, but remember to love being in your own little world too.

(Glad W is calming down. May it last!)

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Twoapenny

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Re: Meditation
« Reply #17 on: September 25, 2021, 03:11:52 AM »
Oh, Phyll, I'm really glad you liked those meditations!  It does feel like a little escape when you find something that can just take you somewhere else, even if it's just for five minutes.  It always makes me feel that there's a door somewhere.

It's interesting what you wrote about the mandalas and working out your balance and what you want to do with your own life (instead of doing what you must/what keeps the wolf from the door/what keeps everyone else happy etc).  I keep thinking a lot about what I want out of my life.  I've been very focused on my son for a long time, and before that was very focused on my mother (!).  Not through choice, I think she liked it that way.  I keep thinking about how many bad things happen to us that are really not our fault - a bit like you with your neighbour - you just happened to be living where you are and for some reason you became part of his crazy narrative.  Why?  That always bothers me and I don't know that it's an answer that is possible to find.  I guess if someone else had bought your house he'd have harassed them - location, rather than you or your partner, in the same way that my neighbour has already driven previous tenants away.  It's not them personally he's harassing - he's just a clusterf**k and anyone in his path is affected by it.  Some people in his life chose that - girlfriend, friends, I guess even the landlord?  Others are like us, and just unlucky enough to be nearby when he goes off.  I keep feeling like somewhere along the way, my soul got lost.  I think it went when I was little, just kind of packed a bag and said "I'll be back once this stuff is over".  And it just never came back.  Maybe that's where the balance comes into it? We all have to make a living, do our day to day stuff, I think we all get caught in needing to achieve things?  It's how we got on in life, isn't it?  But maybe all the time we don't nourish our souls (or spirit or essence or inner child or whatever it might be), maybe we don't get happy?  It will be interesting to see what your mandalas bring up for you now and whether it's very different to the ones you did in the past?  I hope it brings up some interesting stuff, or some fun stuff, at least :) xx

Twoapenny

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Re: Meditation
« Reply #18 on: September 25, 2021, 03:14:46 AM »
So love that conclusion, P...really happy to read it!

A friend and I were visiting today and we kept bringing up various urgencies and worries and we-must-save-the-world-quick distresses, and she kept saying:

NO! I'm RETIRED!

Made me laugh but I took her point. Easing into my 70s, these thoughts are demanding a new balance. Don't give up on the world, but remember to love being in your own little world too.

(Glad W is calming down. May it last!)

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Hopsie, your post made me laugh, it reminded me of the lady who used to look after our cat :)  She and her husband had looked forward to retiring for years and not having to do all the 'stuff' that you have to do in your younger years.  But she said they'd been retired for three months and they were having coffee one morning when he said to her "are you bored?" and she said, "yes".  So they opened up a luxury cattery in their back garden, it meant they could keep busy, be around people and indulge their love of kitty kats.  It just always makes me laugh, I think that need to do 'something' is there, just maybe needs to be something different (and how cute!  I'd love to look after kitty kats all day, all those cuddles and head scratches :) ) xx