HI! I am currently in a court visitation struggle with my ex N of 8 years ago (no he is still "N", our marriage is ex!). As a former victim of emotional and psychological abuse at his hands, I have done a lot of healing, surprisingly only recently during a huge amount of struggle in and out of courts (struggle usually precedes growth, and that's a nice thought,eh?)
Anyway, I want to know how to best support my children who have no voice with thier father, and choose not to have a voice in court (too afraid of father's reaction). Telling me how they feel may relieve them to some extent, but I am not heard as thier voice with thier dad, and I cannot be thier voice in the courts (neither can he, though). How can I best help them to help themselves?
