Author Topic: Reeling from the latest incident  (Read 2959 times)

ksdgypsy

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Reeling from the latest incident
« on: November 27, 2003, 03:13:49 PM »
Two months ago I gave my xN another chance and we were good...and it deteriorated slowly to this incomprehensible end. He called me on his birthday to take me to dinner to celebrate with him and asked to spend Thanksgiving together celebrating my birthday. Well as we spent time together he became more and more distant, but still seemed caring, available and helpful while I've been sick with a cold and then double ear infections...until last week I was in the Emergency Room because it was night and I was peeing blood. I called him and left a message to say I was scared and that I would call him when I got home. He called just as I walked in the door and yelled at me for calling him, that I was not his family. (In the past we had agreed to be family for eachother, and he even used my name for hi Emergency Contact!) Hung up, turned off his answering machine, will not answer my calls or return them since. It's been a week. I'm perplexed because we had a great weekend together just prior and he has never shut me out before when I had real problem. So now I am turning 40 and so heart broken.

I will not forget this one. I will not contact him nor ever give him another chance. I just want to know why...but hopefully time will make me not care.

bunny

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Reeling from the latest incident
« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2003, 12:43:24 PM »
I don't know the history of your relationship but I suspect it's not the first time he has betrayed you. He sounds very, very childish; he probably can't handle adult obligations at all. I'm really sorry about your medical emergency and I hope you're better now.

For what it's worth -- Happy Birthday from me!  :)

hope2003

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« Reply #2 on: November 28, 2003, 01:15:43 PM »
I am sure that if you look at the history of your relationship, you will find many times when he ran hot and cold.  This is the pattern of a N.  It is very painful to live through.

I hope that you are feeling better, and that you have the strength to maintain no contact.  I know that it is really hard, especially during the holiday season.

Jaded911

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« Reply #3 on: November 28, 2003, 07:15:04 PM »
Hope speaketh the truth.

 He is demonstrating perfectly what NPD is.  I am just sorry you have to deal with the aftermath of it.  I am sorry we all have to.
Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me!

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