Suicidal

[gaping]

aaaaargh, bleeeeeech, yuk.... every disgusting term you can think of.

This is exactly the kind of behavior that healthy people need to avoid. It's toxic.

Wake up.

This is classic borderline behavior and this is exactly what gullible people do. Let the person have their "spotlight". Yuk.

I hope this person gets help - professional long term therapy is what she needs.

This board does not need to be held hostage by this person's toxic behavior.

A nod to Dr. Grossman - who gave it exactly it's due - "seek help". Period.

[seastorm]

To the kindhearted Gaping.

How clever of you to give a diagnosis through the Internet. Take your labeling and shove off. Get out of here. Your cruel words are revolting.

If you are here Jac the post about Borderlines is just the sort of crap that can make a person lose all hope. Sometimes the pain IS TOO HARD to bear. You can fall into the soft net of your support here. There may be judgemental twits but there are MORE kind souls who care.

You are so right when you say some people don't listen. And even if they listen, they do not have empathy for your feelings. That is true.  It is also true that there is love for you and caring.

Dear Jac.........

Love
Sea storm

[reallyME]

ya know something, gaping...first of all, I was vulnerable on this board and admitted to struggling with the same intolerant attitudes that you just openly exhibited.  The name "gaping" fits you, because you just are wide open with your venom toward this hurting person's cries.  Thankfully, I've never been that callous toward someone, I don't think.

If someone is saying they feel unheard, invisible and plan to end their life, I have ALWAYS taken that EXTREMELY SERIOUSLY!  You should too.

Whether or not, you'd consider a cry for help and attention to be a Borderline thing, the point is, this board and we who are on it, are here to be a support for people, not here to point out their behavioral issues or impulsive actions and then condemn them for admitting to their struggle, the reasons for it (which are absolutely painful to know about) or their resulting actions.

All I can say is how DARE you kick a hurting person while they are down?  I pray that someone will treat you much better in your ultimate time of need.

~Laura

[debkor]

Hello Gaping,

 welcome to the board.  You appear to be very angry.  Seems to be alot of it these days.  I seem to see my hands stretched out but I do not see handcuffs on them.  No gaping I am not held hostage but you appear to be in my way of trying to help someone. Could you step back a bit. 
I'm sure there is not one person on this board who would refuse to talk to you.  You appear to be angry.  We are not hostile people. Is there something we can help/share with you. Hey if you need to grab on to hands mine is out to you too.


Love Deb

[reallyME]

well, there ya go, gaping...someone to treat you with kindness...debkor.  Bravo!

[debkor]

Jaccccccccccccccc,,


Where are you??  I am putting pounds on here by the moment just eating away as I wait for you. 

Love Deb

[dandylife]

Jac,
I just wanted you to know that I read every word, every sentence of your post and each one is so eloquent in describing what happened to you and how you feel. I just want to be one of the first to sincerely apologize for things I said in posts to you and about conflict that stung or hurt you. Even though that wasn't my intent, it may have come across that way. I'm so sorry. I want to be able to say something now that will help, but words can't express. Please know that even though you get angry, you are so relevant and so important. You do matter. I hope you will forgive me for not seeing when you were in need of a kind and loving big embrace, and not fuel for your burning pain.
Dandylife

[seastorm]

Dear Jac,

Whatever shape you are in I would like to hear from you. You are always welcome.

Love,

Sea storm

[Bones]

Has Dr. Grossman or anyone else been able to contact JacMac?

Bones

[Leah]

Dr Grossman has posted on Page 2 of this thread Bones.  Leahx

Reply No.26

Leah x

[reallyME]

Leah, that is all fine and wonderful that Dr Grossman wished Jac well, but what is he doing to actually CHECK ON HER?  These sorts of things can really irk me...someone cries "suicide" and everyone tells them they are loved, being prayed for, well-wished, yet does anyone find out where this person lives, send the police to check on them? SOMETHING?

I sound paranoid right now, but that's cause I've watched too many "bystander effect" things on the news.

~Laura

[Leah]

Laura, hear what you are saying, my feeling is that as she posted a post via a mobile phone (there was a little icon) that would most certainly be traceable, as the mobile number most likely would be stored on the Forum Server, as per IP address rule - which is also traceable to the IP Company for reporting violations etc (standard procedure).  Other than that I know not.  Leah x 

[reallyME]

Dr G...I realized after I posted the question about what you are doing about this situation with Jac, that I never asked YOU that.  So, please tell me...is anyone doing anything to trace and find her?  Please assure us if you can.

~Laura

[anonymous]

I have been in touch with Jacmac.  She is deeply depressed but no longer suicidal.  She has too much concern and too strong a sense of obligation for her children to follow through.  

[debkor]

Thank you anonymous for letting us know that Jacmac is ok.   I am very sorry that she is feeling so down. She is in my thoughts.

Love
Deb