Cognitive therapy, can you help?

[Lupita]

OK, cannot afford therapist. But coming here helps. Who can help here with cognitive therapy? Any ideas?
I am reading re-inventing my life, how to get out of life traps. Also read The Secret about positive thinking. It helped a little. Still I fell down last night. I was manipulated last night.
I do not want to be needy. I do not want to be needy.
Or maybe I perceived last night as manipulation. It is just that narcissistic traits in people really trigger me, so much to the point that almost make me nonfunctional.
They spot me, they use me.
There is a position that I dream about. >100 applicants. young, recently graduated, they like them, I am old, experience does not count, but that is the position of my dreams. They inform of those openings only by e mail to the people that are in. I am not in. I want in. A friend gave me the information. I applied. I got two important people to recommend me, old acquaintances of mine.
They will decide next week. I have to think positively.
Cognitive therapy. I do not want to be manipulated again.

[CB123]

Lupita,

What happened last night?  Was it your friends?  I'm afraid I've fallen behind reading all the threads, but I havent come across anything about you being manipulated so far.

I don't know enough about cognitive therapy to help you.  I'm guressing that it probably isnt always the best treatment--but sometimes it can be what a person needs to just reprogram their knee-jerk response to things.  I suspect that it's important to make sure that you have dealt with the underlying issues first so you arent relying on a behavior change as a bandaid to a deeper wound. 

I havent found anyone where I live that does it--but I think there is probably a lot of info on the internet.

CB

[dandylife]

Lupita,
cognitive therapy is often used to treat depression. cognitive behavioral therapy is actual the therapy of choice to treat people with borderline personality disorder (very close to N - shares alot of traits).

It's a way of finding the behaviors and thought patterns that cause you distress and then changing them.

A great way to do this is to journal your thoughts and distressing things that happen daily to find them. Changing them is a different matter. You may need professional help to find new ways to cope, new behaviors to replace the old dysfunctional ones.

Dandylife

[dandylife]

Also, Lupita there are now computerized or CD programs to guide you in CBT.

Google computerized CBT and you will get links to different programs.

Alot of them focus on depression, anxiety, or bulimia specifically, but I'm sure the programs would give you the basic steps for improvement.

Dandylife

[Hopalong]

Hi Lupita,

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/sites/entrez?Db=pubmed&Cmd=ShowDetailView&TermToSearch=17017831&ordinalpos=20&itool=EntrezSystem2.PEntrez.Pubmed.Pubmed_ResultsPanel.Pubmed_RVDocSum

http://www.myray.com/content/en/index.cfm

http://counsellingresource.com/

Hops

[WRITE]

This is a wonderful site-

http://www.rational.org.nz/prof.htm

eg
Contents - the 12 Principles:

Self-Knowledge
Self-Acceptance and Confidence
Enlightened Self-Interest
Tolerance for Frustration and Discomfort
Long-Range Enjoyment
Risk-Taking
Moderation
Emotional and Behavioural Responsibility
Self-Direction and Commitment
Flexibility
Objective Thinking
Acceptance of Reality

[sea storm]

Lupita,

I think that ALANON or some other twelve step program is helpful. I am feeling much better because I am connected with other people who care. These are good programs usually.
There are some techniques in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that are helpful little nuggets of information. They do not look at the family of origin or traumatic incidents that may be a ligitimate cause for Post traumatic Stress.
I have been reading about bullying in the workplace and it is very damaging. From your earlier posts I think you may have this.

Sea storm

[Lupita]

Thank you friends, for all your ideas. I will try every thing and let you know what I found.

God Bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lupita