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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4472 on: May 10, 2013, 06:01:11 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/little-girl-fears-food-and-mom.html

Geez!  If this is not child abuse, I don't know what is!!!!  Once again, the advice columnists have their heads up their butts!

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« Reply #4474 on: May 10, 2013, 06:14:21 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/step-up-to-the-installment-plan-to-keep-the-peace.html

The advice columnists have their heads up their butts!



I vaguely recall seeing some cases on the TV court shows, where the plaintiff made elaborate arrangements WITHOUT consulting the defendant in any way, shape, or form, then SUED the defendant for "not paying their fair share".  I think one of those cases ended up before Judge Judy and the plaintiff got ripped a new one!  In each of these similar cases, the plaintiff got told that since they never involved the defendant in the planning, they had NO right to sue the defendant in an attempt to force them to pay for something that was NEVER agreed to.  Judges will NOT enforce a contract that NEVER existed.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4475 on: May 10, 2013, 08:49:22 AM »
Wow, my sister did something like that once, I got a voucher for some photos to be done cheaply and suggested we got ones of the boys for my mums birthday.  She took both the kids over there because I was at work, ordered loads of pictures and then presented me with a bill for my share of photos that I hadn't asked for or wanted!

Just this week I found myself in a difficult situation with a neighbour, who has done some work on my garden that I didn't ask him to or want him to.  I got home and found him in the garden, it made me really uncomfortable and I just didn't know how to handle it, I didn't even feel I could order him to stop because he'd pretty much finished anyway.  I've just avoided him since, I really don't know how to handle him and his wife.  They put things out there as being friendly and neighbourly but to me they feel controlling and intrusive.  Perhaps I need to get a big scary dog :)

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4476 on: May 10, 2013, 09:50:01 AM »
Wow, my sister did something like that once, I got a voucher for some photos to be done cheaply and suggested we got ones of the boys for my mums birthday.  She took both the kids over there because I was at work, ordered loads of pictures and then presented me with a bill for my share of photos that I hadn't asked for or wanted!

Just this week I found myself in a difficult situation with a neighbour, who has done some work on my garden that I didn't ask him to or want him to.  I got home and found him in the garden, it made me really uncomfortable and I just didn't know how to handle it, I didn't even feel I could order him to stop because he'd pretty much finished anyway.  I've just avoided him since, I really don't know how to handle him and his wife.  They put things out there as being friendly and neighbourly but to me they feel controlling and intrusive.  Perhaps I need to get a big scary dog :)

Whoa!  That is annoying to find someone on your property without permission!  Given my personality, I would have been asking him outright:  "What are you doing on my property when I did not ask you to do this?"  You have a right to your personal boundaries.  I've had to do that when a certain NDoofus kept showing up uninvited and tried to give me the attitude that she was entitled to do as she pleases.  Once she got the message that I WILL INVOLVE THE POLICE because she is TRESPASSING,  she finally stopped.  Oh yeah, she attempted to hand me a guilt trip because she's "entitled" and I told her to "F*** OFF!" 

My late adopted sister attempted to pull a similar stunt except that it was an attempt to force me to be the FREE taxi cab at my expense!  I had received an invitation to attend a party at her home and the invitation required an RSVP.  I  called her to let her know that I  was accepting her invitation.  She then proceeded to order me to criss-cross the county to pick up all these various friends of HERS who were TOTAL STRANGERS to me and NONE of them lived ANYWHERE NEAR ME!  This was at a time where the cost of gas was skyrocketing!  When I pointed out these facts to her, I was told that I HAD to do as she dictated and pay for the gas out of my own pocket.  I informed her that I am NOT a free limo or taxi service!  At that point, she bluntly told me that I was DISINVITED and she hung up on me.  Her loss, not mine!

The audacity of some people!   :P
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4478 on: May 12, 2013, 07:48:17 AM »
I'm planning on going to the Green Man Festival and taking my mind off of what today is focusing on.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4479 on: May 12, 2013, 07:55:43 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/happy-mother-s-day-2013-05-12.html

Once again, I don't think the Advice Columnists really get it.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4481 on: May 13, 2013, 05:20:22 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130513

In today's "Dear Abby", the grandfather is a Narcissist!  I hope they tell him:  "Up Yours, Fool!"

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4482 on: May 13, 2013, 05:26:20 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/who-s-not-following-up-on-child-abuse-reports.html

Unfortunately, there have been actual cases, in the news, where children have DIED because of bureaucratic bungling!

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