Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[Ami]

That must have felt good, Bones.         Ami

[BonesMS]

That must have felt good, Bones.         Ami

It felt good both times with NDoofus and the other N.

Bones

[BonesMS]

The more I consider my original question, "Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?", the more I realize that it IS N behavior because they seem to have this attitude of ENTITLEMENT!

Bones

[Hopalong]

Sending you some love and hot chocolate, Bones...

xxoo
Hops

[BonesMS]

Sending you some love and hot chocolate, Bones...

xxoo
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

Bones

[BonesMS]

There seems to be a question about how to deal with passive-aggressive N's.  How about we discuss it here?

Bones

[BonesMS]

Before I became aware and started putting pieces of the puzzle together, I remember an incident that occurred with passive-aggressive NDoofus.  We were having a discussion and she wanted to go somewhere and do something and expected me to tag along.  I responded:  "Not now.  We can do that later.  I have a school project that I'm still working on and I need to finish it.  It is due soon."  (This was while I was still in graduate school.)  She reacts with:  "You're being DIFFICULT!"  I looked at her as if she had lost her mind and repeated, "The school project has priority right now!"  When I look back on that incident, it feels as if I was dealing with a six-year-old instead of a middle-aged individual!  Sheesh!!! 

Bones

[BonesMS]

Reading others' posting about how their Nparents reacted to the illnesses and injuries of their children triggered another memory for me that I posted in the Members' Stories site.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I'm also wondering if the N's in your lives have ever faked helplessness whenever they didn't want to take responsibility for something?

Bones

[BonesMS]

I don't know how many on the board watch Divorce Court with Judge Toler.  Every so often, she has a special session titled:  "Before the Vows".  In today's session, it involved a 37-year-old man and is his 27-year-old girlfriend.  Within seconds, it became painfully obvious that the guy was an absolutely flaming N who attempted to gaslight the judge several times and Judge Toler was having NONE OF IT!!!  He even PREENED in front of the courtroom audience and thought he was cute and funny in his behavior.  (He was simply obnoxious!)  The judge advised the girlfriend to quit wasting her time because he had no reason to change as long as he could continue to get away with dangling a ring in front of her like a carrot.  Based on what I observed from the girlfriend's reaction, she already knew this but wanted confirmation from someone cool, calm, collected and objective about her observations.  At that point, she handed the guy his bag of stuff and told him it was over.  As she walked out into the hallway, he followed her begging her to come back to him.  He even plopped down on one knee in front of her, with a ring, and begged her not to leave him as he now had the ring she always wanted.  She shoved it aside and told him:  "It's too late!"  I applauded her!!!

Bones

[Hopalong]

I applaud YOU, Bones!

How are you feeling dear?

Any ease of your troubles?

Any good nutrition and exercise helping?

I hope so hope so hope so

Hops

[Ami]

Hi (((((Bones))))
 Thinking of you?  Send an update when you can.             Ami

[seasons]

I'm also wondering if the N's in your lives have ever faked helplessness whenever they didn't want to take responsibility for something?

Bones

My oldest sister does this daily.



She walks with a cane. I told her to get a wheel chair because it is no help, as everyone walks with her while she acts like she can't put one foot in front of the other. LIE
OH no I don't want one.
Why would she, she wouldn't be in control anymore of the person walking with her or should I say standing as she Cries out in pain and stiffness. NOT!
Told her to ask her Dr. for pain medication, and anti- inflammatory medication to help her debilitating arthritis and other unnamed illnesses. More BS!
She said, "NO" again, doesn't want to discuss it and says she doesn't like medication. BS!!!!!!!!

She pretends she has no money. When her wallet is filled with bills tucked away no one can notice.
Got her cable paid for by a neighbor who doesn't have cable herself because my sisters was going to have hers cut off.
Old friend pays her electric, she adds about $10 to the bill for extra cash.
Cashiers bring out her bundles to her car. As she can't carry them. BS again!


Pretending she is a step away from the shelter (as she is laying mulch, buying flowers, wreaths, 123 lawn step care etc.) that's how she get all her freebies.
Pretends she is physically handycapped. Everyone who falls for it bows to her every physical need. Again a big LIE.
She is exhausting. Watching someone be so good at conning people is amazingly sick! She is a master at her disguise and disgusts me.

I could go on and on, as you know with these people. I won't bore you with the details except she is not responsible in her eyes for anything, she is the victim and everyone needs to fill her with pity, material possessions and their time. And she loves to brag about it.
Her only responsibility is how to suck everything out of you, then she feels like she won the lottery.

Hope your feeling better.
ox seasons

[BonesMS]

I applaud YOU, Bones!

How are you feeling dear?

Any ease of your troubles?

Any good nutrition and exercise helping?

I hope so hope so hope so

Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I have my ups and downs.  Last Friday, I landed in the Emergency Room from what I think might have been the Noro-virus!  UGH!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Hi (((((Bones))))
 Thinking of you?  Send an update when you can.             Ami

Thanks, Ami!

I'm trying to take it easy.

Bones