https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4o0xuj/passive_aggy_and_presents_part_1/ARRRGGHHH!!!!  This triggered a memory from years ago!  No matter how hard I TRIED to find a nice gift, I would ALWAYS get screamed and cursed at while being called the R-Word!  Never mind the fact that I asked, NUMEROUS TIMES, what they would like for thus-and-such gift occasion.  Their behaviors would equate to:  "Read my mind and guess what I want!", then being shat on because I "guessed wrong"!  At the end, they finally started wondering WHY I stopped giving them any gifts altogether.  By then, my attitude toward all of them was:  "F**K OFF!!!  I am NOT wasting my time, energy, and money if the only result is going to be additional abuse aimed at the Family Scapegoat!  F**K THAT $H!T!!!!  I'm DONE!!!!"